"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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An exercise to "Kill that desperation"

Sneevox

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Within the next month, I want you to do something for me.

That's right, I'm talking to all of you new don juans, young and old.

You're going to go into public.

Okay... what's so bad about th-

And you're going to cold approach as many girls as you can.

Well... I guess that's not all that hard, but how is this-

There's a catch.

-sigh- Of fvcking course there is.

You're not going to ask for a number unless you're truly interested in the girl.

Well, I mean... what if I'm interested in just any girl?

Mofo, if I set out 10 cakes in front of you and one of them is your favorite type, which one are you going to choose to eat?

Well... My favorite...

Exactly. Now, there's another catch.

Wait, wait, what if I don't even find a girl that I like?

Dude, seriously? You don't need to worry about it. If you don't like her, that sucks for her. YOU are the one gaming, not her. If she's not your type, go to the next one and don't ask for the number. Now, ready to here the other catch?

Ugh, I guess. This is already so hard.

Get over it. Life is hard. Here's the other catch: You're going to wait 3 days to call her... Then you're going to wait 3 more days.... and 3 more. Then, you're going to keep waiting until-

DO I EVEN CALL HER?

Nope. Heheh. That's the trick here. You're going to get a taste of what it's like to nearly get the cake. You're going to have another reason to go out there and get that cake.

Well, I-

I need you to do something else for me.

SERIOUSLY? ANOTHER CATCH?

Not so much.

Oh, okay... What is it?

Get rid of the number. Burn it, delete it, etc. etc.

Well, that sounds easy enough. So you're sure this will help me?

Only as much as you want it to. Have a nice day, young one.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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heheheheheeheheh

Challenge Accepted!:up:
 

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Sounds good.

It'll definitely help with creating a barrier for us for future where if a girl doesn't respond, we can be all "eh" and *shrug it off much easily*. Well, most of us do it anyways, but for those who can't this is the practice that'll help them and boost THEIR confidence and higher their standards.
 

Fly By Night

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I'd do it but... Then I won't get any action for a month. Do we exchange numbers instead of taking her number just in case she gets interested enough to initiate contact?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Fly By Night said:
I'd do it but... Then I won't get any action for a month. Do we exchange numbers instead of taking her number just in case she gets interested enough to initiate contact?
Naw man! This is for people who are having trouble letting go.

It supposed to make you confident in that a number wont matter. You will be able to get new ones anytime you want thus you really wont care much if one chick is ignoring or not replying you. You will know you can get others so that one wont matter.
 

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what if she doesn't give you her number? the chances of me getting the number are very slim.
 

Sneevox

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sylvester the cat said:
what if she doesn't give you her number? the chances of me getting the number are very slim.
Nigga, please. You're gonna get the number.
Just try.
Remember, this is about killing the desperation and getting used to the feel of talking to women.
Without the drag of "What if this girl means something in the future?", you can effectively just have fun with her and not worry about what happens next.
That's why you delete the number.
So do it, and have fun with it.
 
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