I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
If anything, I avoid gathering information with text messaging. I use it mainly for elevating IL and flirting in the beginning. The woman's imagination does the rest.
Never say that. Chics can flip on a dime these days. Nothing is ever for sure in this sh!tty game.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I've done it before with chicks who's IL wasn't all that high. It works well with chicks I meet online, but it has to be done through text messaging. She has to be comfortable with exchanging texts before you can amplify things.Pimp-sicle said:
I did it with the computer programmer I posted about. Met her on match.com. I chatted with her on AIM before I ever met her, ran the smoothest lines I could think of (and steal), and set up the date for that same day right there in the chat. It got her revved up enough to meet a stranger at a restaurant, she came back to my house with no resistance and had a wild time. Took shots and basically it was a one night stand, saw her one more time after that.Pimp-sicle said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
