"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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An argument to misunderstanding.

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Many greets everyone,

Nice board, super feedback, with very interesting discussions! I will go straightforward to my topic.

Case is the following: While i was having a conversation (texting) with my girlfriend, i did the mistake of saying something i should not. It was a simple but stupid argument, that led to a misunderstanding. The point is that she has been misunderstood, and after that has gotten cold and distant. I have already apologized, however like in most situations, when she says, "it is okay - no problem", it is only concealing it, simply. After that, she has simply stopped texting me first, and probably has broken up with me.(Leaves you questioning that). However, if i text her, she will get into conversation, but only with brief messages and just being cold.(Like she does not know you). In this point i think i should not keep texting her.

Anyway, how would be the best possible way to take it from here? Should i keep the normal flow of messaging, but making it less frequent, or should i give her space, and wait for her to text me, going completely silent?

PS: We are talking about an ldr.

Thnx!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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