"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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an approach exercise I do.. etc (northest US)

messenger

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Me and my buddy 'string bean' decided to work on our approach anxiety by making an effort to say hello and hi to all women we passed in the mall and/or on the street.

This made it much more natural for us to at least strike up an opener to those who seemed interested. After doing this for about 45 minutes to an hour it seemed to be empowering just counting the number of people who acted friendly vs the ones who ignored it..

Of course the ones who ignored it we let out a "It's okay to say Hi".. with a smile and that seemed to neg them a bit enough to get a sincere smile and a hello back.

This method is in honor of the south. Where it really is okay to be friendly to strangers.

-Messenger.. Dj in training.
P.S This also helped us practice our tonality of how we said things.. Saying hello as if you knew the person was always fun.. I then follow this up with a "You seriously don't remember me, do you?" :)

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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zzeitgeist

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i like it. Wish I had a buddy who would be willing to do this with me. Its much harder doing this without a wingman for support.
 

meitenesrigas

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Spooky if you ask me. I simply ask a girl if she wants some tea or hot chocolate and she is mine.
 
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