An amusing silver lining to flakes...

[FlexpertHamilton]

I've had multiple scenarios that played out like this:

1. Invite girl on a date (usually hiking)
2. She flakes/ghosts
3. I don't respond at all
4. She hits me up a week later and pretends like nothing happened
5. I suggest we watch a movie at my place instead
6. She agrees enthusastically

I think the benefit of this is that I already asked her to do a proper "date" first so there's plausible deniability in being able to just ask her straight over since I didn't do it outright.

This has happened multiple times now...kind of an amusing silver lining to be turn a flake into an opportunity.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I feel like asking her to come to your place is a safer bet for a first get together than going on a hike? I feel like this would be a very location dependant ask so maybe I'm not in the right place for that to make sense for me

Also this could be saw as negging in a round-about way that is sort of veiled and not immediately obvious so it's a bit manipulative, I like it

 

[Bokanovsky]

I've had multiple scenarios that played out like this:

1. Invite girl on a date (usually hiking)
2. She flakes/ghosts
3. I don't respond at all
4. She hits me up a week later and pretends like nothing happened
5. I suggest we watch a movie at my place instead
6. She agrees enthusastically

I think the benefit of this is that I already asked her to do a proper "date" first so there's plausible deniability in being able to just ask her straight over. It's happened multiple times now...kind of an amusing silver lining to be turn a flake into an opportunity.

Interesting observation. I’ll try it next time.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I feel like asking her to come to your place is a safer bet for a first get together than going on a hike? I feel like this would be a very location dependant ask so maybe I'm not in the right place for that to make sense for me

Also this could be saw as negging in a round-about way that is sort of veiled and not immediately obvious so it's a bit manipulative, I like it

It happened with another girl asking for coffee. Regardless, I don't see why they'd think a hike is unsafe, I choose very popular parks that are full of people.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

It happened with another girl asking for coffee. Regardless, I don't see why they'd think a hike is unsafe, I choose very popular parks that are full of people.

How well can she assess your provisions on a hike versus going to your house? The Modern woman's dating strategy is to maximize assessment with minimal time spent

 

[EyeBRollin]

How well can she assess your provisions on a hike versus going to your house? The Modern woman's dating strategy is to maximize assessment with minimal time spent

Boom! We have the answer ^^^.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

How well can she assess your provisions on a hike versus going to your house? The Modern woman's dating strategy is to maximize assessment with minimal time spent

Here I am thinking they're concerned about safety but meanwhile they're trying to scope me out. Why don't more women agree to just come straight to a mans house for a first meet then?

Anyway, joke is on her...I'm only looking to smash anyway. My apartment is halfway decent but meh, I'm a minimalist so they're probably disappointed.

 

[hellonwheels]

In my experience hiking has never been a successful first idea for a date, even though it’d be my preferred option. It doesn’t logically make sense they’d feel more safe going to someone’s house, but they slightly do.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

I've had multiple scenarios that played out like this:

1. Invite girl on a date (usually hiking)
2. She flakes/ghosts
3. I don't respond at all
4. She hits me up a week later and pretends like nothing happened
5. I suggest we watch a movie at my place instead
6. She agrees enthusastically

I think the benefit of this is that I already asked her to do a proper "date" first so there's plausible deniability in being able to just ask her straight over since I didn't do it outright.

This has happened multiple times now...kind of an amusing silver lining to be turn a flake into an opportunity.

Unanswered questions.

Did she come over to your house or not? If yes, did you smash or not?

If not, then the entire thread is meaningless.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

Unanswered questions.

Did she come over to your house or not? If yes, did you smash or not?

If not, then the entire thread is meaningless.

I myself ended up flaking on them before they came over, my libido is fvcking dead in the winter months (plus, they were only mid so I just couldn't bother). Would we have smashed? In my experience women who come over on 1st date has well over 50% chance of a lay, and I suspect it'd be higher in these scenarios. Anyway, I have a cute girl coming over tomorrow, so I'll let you know.

Or maybe she's not much of a hiker and prefers to cuddle on the couch.

Last girl said she loved hiking and especially loved the place I suggested.