"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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An American Woman who gets it: Carolyn Hax

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This is a tremendous advice column I read every week. This woman tells it like it is, and cuts down the manipulative game-playing by U.S. women week after week. I don't always agree with her, but most of the time I do. I wish more U.S. women were like her!

Her latest and perhaps best gem -- read the first piece of advice. It's priceless!

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A6985-2004May6.html
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah, I have found half of her answers to be excellent, the other half AFC. She usually gives the women hell, but gives AFC advice to men. But that is what they get for asking a woman advice on being a man.

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Hey Westcoast.

You still here?

I thought you were off to Sweden or South Africa to find some quality foriegn women.

:)
 

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Originally posted by WestCoaster
This is a tremendous advice column I read every week. This woman tells it like it is, and cuts down the manipulative game-playing by U.S. women week after week. I don't always agree with her, but most of the time I do. I wish more U.S. women were like her!

Her latest and perhaps best gem -- read the first piece of advice. It's priceless!

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A6985-2004May6.html
yeah, that particular article (the first one) shows how women treat "very good friends". dude shouldn't have gotten attached, but still...

i've always said it: women CANNOT deal with guilt. they will go to the ends of the earth to avoid it! they'll also mercy fvck a dude for a year to avoid it. selfish little tramps.

i'll send that link to my sister--she needs it, from a woman.
 

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Slick, not on my way yet -- darn it!

I do have a goal of going to Sweden and meeting a hottie. One of my best friends is close to marrying a Sweded some 14 years his younger, and he says she has a hot, single sister. I'm seriously trying to get that meeting arranged!

South Africa? Tried that once before. Met this absolute gorgeous gal from Cape Town ... hot as a pistol, with the accent and all.

Sadly, she turned me down ... she was a lesbian (no joke). Of course that's the only way a woman could turn me down! :>)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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