"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
an AFC who is married told me this
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Abnigh9
Master Don Juan
ultrashogun
Senior Don Juan
NewMan
Master Don Juan
But I believe it's more the fact that he married the wrong woman.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Atratus
Don Juan
A man who is beggar lives like a beggar, dies like a beggar.
Don't settle. Be King.
If you don't wanna be King, then that would be a good day to die.
(Ok, ok... or be a beggar. If you insist).
a man who is married will live like a beggar and die like a king
Who gives a **** what ppl think after u died? If these 2 sentences were to be true, live as a king and who the **** would care how to die lol you would be dead anyway! rotfl
Live like a king, and settle like at 35. Now that's life.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Conversely, if you use all of your resources for the needs of others, you will sacrifice yourself however you will be missed after you die.
All of this makes sense and falls true if you feel that you have to sacrifice to be regarded as a good person and to be remembered. Hmmm, reminds me of guy meeting a woman and spending tons of money on her to win her affection.
Yeah, an AFC will believe this but what happens after you die? Everyone else moves on, they will survive, they will go on with their life. This is easily done since whatever you were providing outside of yourself can be easily gotten from someone else.
Compare this to women who will go out with you just because you buy them dinner. They will go out with you as long as you are content for trading their company for food. As soon as you request more than they are willing to give, you are dropped. Why? Because it isn't hard to find another AFC that will take them to dinner.
I say live your life to the fullest without sacrifice. This doesn't mean hoard everything for yourself, just don't go into financial or emotional debt over it. There is a saying by the author Ayn Rand that goes "I swear on my life and my love of it that I will not live for the sake of another man nor ask him to live for mine." In a nutshell, I am not here solely for your benefit and I have the means to take care of myself.
Why sacrifice your life to someone because you have means? If that is the case, stop wasting time and just pass out blank checks. Why must you live like a beggar to be appreciated? What ever happened to people appreciating you for who you are and not what you can give them?
So many people settle for things in their lives and give until they bleed for the satisfaction of feeling that they will be rewarded after they are gone. Why wait? Enjoy who you are and enjoy the company of people who enjoy you for who you are.
The demands from both wife and chidlern are very costly. A man must always be the provider regarless of how much his woman makes.
With this in mind, a man doesn't really have a choice in the matter when he is married.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
How deep and insightful
To find a new wife, he has to get rid of the old one and give her half his assets. You won't live like a king when they garnish 50% of your paycheck.
The solution is to stay single. Think about it - in a business world - would you invest in a single company all your life's work? Plus, if you want to buy the shares back, you automatically lose 50% of them.
Only a madman would invest like that. But men do it all the time.
Cheers
Try not to think of it in economical terms. After all, he will still have his own yearly earnings, he'll maybe split up the money earned already, but his future earnings are still (mostly) his, assuming he has no children. When you die, you die, what matters is how much you enjoyed it, not how much money you had in the bank, that is an ice cold thought to have. If he can have less money but live a happier life then that is what he should do. Not make more but live a depressed life (which living like a beggar implies). As Henry David Thoreau once stated, "That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest."Originally posted by Ice Cold
How deep and insightful
To find a new wife, he has to get rid of the old one and give her half his assets. You won't live like a king when they garnish 50% of your paycheck.
The solution is to stay single. Think about it - in a business world - would you invest in a single company all your life's work? Plus, if you want to buy the shares back, you automatically lose 50% of them.
Only a madman would invest like that. But men do it all the time.
Cheers
Fvck what the AFCs say, and fvck what society says, fvck all of it!
Learn from me... yes I lost 50%! I could be retired RIGHT NOW with $500,000 invested and a full military pension... instead I pay out the a$$ for ex wife and kids college!
For God's sake listen... I will live AND die a beggar!!!
(It is not that bad, I intend to marry a rich widow
)dietzcoi
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Money is a big part of happiness man. If you've ever had to live on your own, you'd feel that.
And you won't be happy if you bust your ass all day and give it all to the:
landlord
mechanic
insurance companies
government
wife
food
basic clothes
And in the end you're left with close to nothing.