"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
an AFC who is married told me this
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Abnigh9
Master Don Juan
ultrashogun
Senior Don Juan
NewMan
Master Don Juan
But I believe it's more the fact that he married the wrong woman.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Atratus
Don Juan
A man who is beggar lives like a beggar, dies like a beggar.
Don't settle. Be King.
If you don't wanna be King, then that would be a good day to die.
(Ok, ok... or be a beggar. If you insist).
a man who is married will live like a beggar and die like a king
Who gives a **** what ppl think after u died? If these 2 sentences were to be true, live as a king and who the **** would care how to die lol you would be dead anyway! rotfl
Live like a king, and settle like at 35. Now that's life.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Conversely, if you use all of your resources for the needs of others, you will sacrifice yourself however you will be missed after you die.
All of this makes sense and falls true if you feel that you have to sacrifice to be regarded as a good person and to be remembered. Hmmm, reminds me of guy meeting a woman and spending tons of money on her to win her affection.
Yeah, an AFC will believe this but what happens after you die? Everyone else moves on, they will survive, they will go on with their life. This is easily done since whatever you were providing outside of yourself can be easily gotten from someone else.
Compare this to women who will go out with you just because you buy them dinner. They will go out with you as long as you are content for trading their company for food. As soon as you request more than they are willing to give, you are dropped. Why? Because it isn't hard to find another AFC that will take them to dinner.
I say live your life to the fullest without sacrifice. This doesn't mean hoard everything for yourself, just don't go into financial or emotional debt over it. There is a saying by the author Ayn Rand that goes "I swear on my life and my love of it that I will not live for the sake of another man nor ask him to live for mine." In a nutshell, I am not here solely for your benefit and I have the means to take care of myself.
Why sacrifice your life to someone because you have means? If that is the case, stop wasting time and just pass out blank checks. Why must you live like a beggar to be appreciated? What ever happened to people appreciating you for who you are and not what you can give them?
So many people settle for things in their lives and give until they bleed for the satisfaction of feeling that they will be rewarded after they are gone. Why wait? Enjoy who you are and enjoy the company of people who enjoy you for who you are.
The demands from both wife and chidlern are very costly. A man must always be the provider regarless of how much his woman makes.
With this in mind, a man doesn't really have a choice in the matter when he is married.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
How deep and insightful
To find a new wife, he has to get rid of the old one and give her half his assets. You won't live like a king when they garnish 50% of your paycheck.
The solution is to stay single. Think about it - in a business world - would you invest in a single company all your life's work? Plus, if you want to buy the shares back, you automatically lose 50% of them.
Only a madman would invest like that. But men do it all the time.
Cheers
Try not to think of it in economical terms. After all, he will still have his own yearly earnings, he'll maybe split up the money earned already, but his future earnings are still (mostly) his, assuming he has no children. When you die, you die, what matters is how much you enjoyed it, not how much money you had in the bank, that is an ice cold thought to have. If he can have less money but live a happier life then that is what he should do. Not make more but live a depressed life (which living like a beggar implies). As Henry David Thoreau once stated, "That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest."Originally posted by Ice Cold
How deep and insightful
To find a new wife, he has to get rid of the old one and give her half his assets. You won't live like a king when they garnish 50% of your paycheck.
The solution is to stay single. Think about it - in a business world - would you invest in a single company all your life's work? Plus, if you want to buy the shares back, you automatically lose 50% of them.
Only a madman would invest like that. But men do it all the time.
Cheers
Fvck what the AFCs say, and fvck what society says, fvck all of it!
Learn from me... yes I lost 50%! I could be retired RIGHT NOW with $500,000 invested and a full military pension... instead I pay out the a$$ for ex wife and kids college!
For God's sake listen... I will live AND die a beggar!!!
(It is not that bad, I intend to marry a rich widow
)dietzcoi
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Money is a big part of happiness man. If you've ever had to live on your own, you'd feel that.
And you won't be happy if you bust your ass all day and give it all to the:
landlord
mechanic
insurance companies
government
wife
food
basic clothes
And in the end you're left with close to nothing.