"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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An AFC NEXTing too early and too soon.

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jonwon said:
If you really want to mess this chick up or not be bothered, this method is a sure way to kill two birds with one stone.

Since you have to speak to her or meet her again.

this is what you try.

Dont be effected either way, dont show her your angry, botherd, concerend, resentful, moody, jealous, happy.

Just talk to her like you would talk you your sister or brother, i.e impartial and not really bothered, or talk to her like some student you met in the hall who wanted to say 'hi'.

To make this not effect you, is hard.

but dont chase her, dont follow her, dont try to make excuses to be with her, if you find your in a situation with her, just treat it as your in a situation with a total stranger.

but this is not easy and this girl sounds like bad news, i think she as been bitten by you and she does not like it, so it seems she is using means to wonder why your not like the other chumps.

i would avoid her, but if you have to spea to her treat her like you treat others, impartial or not even bothered if she was there or not, she as simply nothing to offer you!

That is until she steps of her pedestal and meets you on her level, you dont want to be friends it cant work, she it seems want's the attention from you, dont give it to her, treat her like some spoilt kid or at worst just a normal person. If you show any negative traits e.t.c it will only validate her attention need since she can see your effected by her putting you in friend zone.

Your a cool character, this stuff is like water off a ducks back! So what she tried to put you in friend zone, you know this you know more then her, remember that when you see her and see right through her.
Hey Jonwon I took your advice and I think it is really working, I met her on friday and I totally ignored her and the bits when I HAD to see her I kept the conversation extremely generic like...."Hello, how are you....really? Oh thats good.....i'll ttyl :kick:"

So then throughout the entire night she was looking at me, and she kept staring at me with very beckoning eyes....like, "Why isnt this guy kissing my ass?"

I think we have a winner Jonwon....thanks to your advice; YOU :rockon:

So now, I am just going to play it cool and just meet other women.

And thanks for calling me a cool charecter....are you saying it for the situation or just me in general? :confused:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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