Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Brothers,
Got a question for you all, especially those that have lived elsewhere. Currently in grad school, just so you get a sense of where I'm at.

Do you think American girls are worth pursuing? I mean actively pursuing for a long term relationship with, as opposed to just having a little fun with...

I've lived in the US for 23 years, and then lived in asia for 1 back in 09 (I'm not asian, had a internship there). I've dated my fair share, and I've felt more and more that American girls are just not worth it. Out of about 10 girlfriends I've had here, 3 of them cheated, and most were adamant about seeing all their guy friends and flirting with them etc. etc. I've learned the hard way that many of these "guys friends" turn out to be more like F buddies the second you split with the girl.

I just feel like women have this mindset here, where they should see as many guys as possible in their 20's or 30's before they settle down. Just look at the surge of films directed at women about finding the right guy, aka "eat.prey.love." However, most of these are not really about finding "the one," but about getting out there and sampling the most sausage they can.

Anyways, in asia, I found women were SOO much better relationship wise than here. When they're in a relationship with a guy, they're much more committed to him. While women may have guy friends, it is clear that they're not romantically interested in the least bit; it's just about you and her. I truly think it's just an entire cultural change.

I'm not trying to be politically correct here, I'm just saying it how it is. As they say 50% of all marriages in the US end in divorce.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I see what you mean sadly its spreading to other countries outside the US as well.As long as $$$ is involved there will always be high divorce rates between members.US has a divorce system designed to benefit women in the end so its taken advantage of. But don't let that make you bitter towards american women, always keep an open mind and stick to your own standards.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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1337 said:
I see what you mean sadly its spreading to other countries outside the US as well.As long as $$$ is involved there will always be high divorce rates between members.US has a divorce system designed to benefit women in the end so its taken advantage of. But don't let that make you bitter towards american women, always keep an open mind and stick to your own standards.
Yes! That is an aspect I never considered in relation to this, as the divorce laws are very particular here. The relationship probably gets in a prolonged downswing, and the lady just thinks, to hell with him if I can just dump him, take half his $$$, and then find a new guy (and live happily ever after).

I will be making a lot more cash when I get my doctorate, and I think no matter how much I like or trust the girl, I'll get a pre nup before I get married. I just want to entirely remove that financial aspect from it I guess.

I shouldn't generalize, I guess. I've had some girls that were really good to me, it just didn't work out in the end. It's just some that made me :cuss:
 
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