Amazing night- too much pressure, hard-on

[Lion]

I am trying not to dwell on this but its slightly worrying, I lost my hardon.

I took this great girl out last night, 2nd date for a meal and drinks, then we moved onto the club. I did really well, kino and convo, we ended up leaving the club early for her place.

When we got there things happened and we got into foreplay, she went down on me a few times :woo: and I made her so f*king wet for about and hour, then as soon as I went to rubber up and enter I lost my hardon and it didn't come back!

So she reacted real caring and gave me a massage and some tablets and watered me LOL then we just lied there for an hour talking and I left and said I'd call her. She seems to respect me, which is essential. :rockon:


Other reasons:
*THe last 3 days have been hectic and I haven't had time to go to the gym for a whole week. I wasn't feeling my best.
*I had a bloated stomach since lunchtime and was pretty much on the go right up until actually going out to meet her.
*I had drunk a lot!

I think the pressure got to me as I haven't slept with anyone for about 8months.
I kept telling myself to relax.

She's gonna be out tonight,

I said I'd call her....so shall I try to nail her tonight or would I gain alot from leaving it till another day?

Shall I just lie low until she contacts me?

She goes back to college next week (where I am invited to visit).

Any advice appreciated, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.:box:

 

[Ace of Flames]

Quite a few topics like this are floating around, and I'm not sure if I should be happy or sad.

I mean yea, it sucks that you guys are losing it and all. That's never good news.

But I'll be damned if I'm not glad to hear about more guys (almost) getting laid! Better than the usual slew of threads asking basic questions. Anyone agree with me?

 

[Cruise]

^^^ Amen... preach on brotha man preach on...

 

[musclyjerk]

It happens to plenty of guys - the common label is performance anxiety.

You could use Viagra and lower the dosage until you're comfortable.

The Muscly Jerk

 

[lookyoung]

Listen dude don't worry about it. When I was 16 and lost my virginity, I couldn't get it up for the first 3 times believe it or not. This is all performance anxiety. Ever since than have had no problems. My girl at the time was also understanding. Hey bro just let things happen naturally. What I do when I am at a girls place and I know I am ready to fvck, I visualize myself being a fvcking pornstar. I say to myself I am the man. This has helped me and can help you too.

Fvck this girl as soon as possible. Don't wait around. You will never know what happens tomorrow. Be a lion go in for the kill she is the prey.

Best of luck to you bro......................

 

[Leporello]

More or less the same thing happened to me not long ago. The #1 tip is to relax and not worry about it. Sound impossible? Just work on being comfortable with her. Spend some time naked in bed without expectation of sex, then go at it when you're ready. Have her make you hard, then let it go, then have her do it again so you'll know your erections will come back.

The next time you have sex, let her be on top.

Buy a bigger brand of condoms so they go on easier.

Don't masturbate for a while.

and, while this certainly won't work for everyone, I find l-arginine supplements really helpful.

 

[DJinTraining06]

This happened to me the other day, ive had sex with my girl 4 times so far and it didnt happen the first 3 times, only the 4th time. Go figure. Does that make any sense at all? I heard caffeine can be a culprit, i had 2 big cups of coffee in the morning and we had sex around 2 in the afternoon so could that be it?

I was hard when we were full clothed, full erection, but when i was opening the wrapper it went soft. So strange, i wasnt nervous, we r realyl comfortabel with each other already so i dont get it. She gave me a ******* and it still wasnt gettin hard for like 2 mintues, till it finally did. It was very strange. I was pretty embarassed but she was really cool about it, and it turned out she said she thought maybe it was her, and i told her it wasnt. I dunno if she just said that to make me feel better, but watever.

But the amazing thing to me is we had sex again 30 mins later and i was totally hard, and then a 3rd time 2 hrs later and i was totally hard once again so wat the hell was that?

 

[wayword]

This seems to a recurring post every 3 days...

I don't know if this has always been normal or if ED is rising in this world (possibly due to xenoestrogens, pollutants, more porn, more STDs, more promiscuity, energetic degeneration, etc?) - but it is now surprisingly UNRARE. Even amongst YOUNG MEN!

an anonymous survey of 234 men aged 18-25

13% reported ever having difficulty getting or keeping an erection.
25% reported ever losing an erection while putting on a condom.

Participants who had ever had an erectile problem were more likely to have had a prior sexually transmitted disease (STD) and more than 5 partners in the past year.