You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dave doesn't seem to understand that top tier men view OLD as a hooker website. A 9 guy will bang out a 7 because she will lay quickly with no effort and because she is a different piece of azz--and then dismiss her without reason. So now her ego believes she is entitled to a 9 guy when her value is much lower. That's OLD.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
LAraider is only one here telling the truth that online dating is ridiculously one sided/rigged against men.
Who gives a fvck about Photofeeler? Is that you Big Neal? All hung up on your Photofeeler ratings?
Not sure. Again, post your profile and post your messages and we can see what you are doing. @sazc had made some points on Bumble. Try that out and just because they swiped on you, doesn't mean you have to go out with them. Use it for practice to hone in on your game.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
No, we all said that. @LARaiders85 made some good points. You are not seeing through your own BS. We've all been there bro. You are just too stubborn to see through the trees.
If you want my help, show me the 10 girls you have messaged.
I make friends everywhere I go. Nobody knows any quality single women
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The nice thing about bumble is that, once you Swype right on a chick, she WILL be presented with your profile to ponder.
Thats the point everyone is making here Neal. I mean Dave. lol.
no matter how much I looksmax, I'll never be above a 7.5 to 8...which sounds like is not enough
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
No offense but amantes OLD profile narrative wouldn't work for you. The narrative doesn't match the picture you present here. I'm wondering if the same is happening with Dave.
Please show me someone on here that thinks this is super easy. I will wait.
7/10 women on bumble in mid 20s are looking for 10/10 men
No one here thinks cold approach is easy.
Possibly. I’m not offended at all. I’m just not buying all this.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.