Am in a slump and i cant get out!

[thebsharp]

Have you guys ever get into a slump and you cant get out? i think am an ok looking guy, not ugly but not a model either, i dress nice and clean cut. Lately, for months it seems... i got rejected so much i lost count, i would say somewhere between 15-20 times with zero success, altho i did get approuch from some fat chicks so that doent really count.

Before when i started out, i did pretty good, i got numbers 50% of the time talking to girls but lately, they all seems repulse by me and i dont know why, it could be because i broke out alot lately. The acne is gone now but the blemished remains but its not THAT bad so i dont think thats the problem. I really dont know what am doing wrong, why do i get success before and not now? am even more stylish in my clothing and gain abit of muscle.

The only solution i can think of now is to approuch as much as possible, i surely can get 1 girl out of 50! i just hope it doent get that bad any suggestion is appreciated guys.

 

[Krassus]

Life's like that, it's always streaks of black and white. For me anyway. It's almost never gray. I usually have a few incredible months then a week or two of absolute hell. Rinse and repeat. There could be a number of reasons for this, most of them having to do with your very own thoughts. Remember, the more desparate you get, the more likely you are to fail again. It's like a snowball. On the upside, there's the law of averages so you're bound to succeed sooner or later. I suggest you sit down in a quiet place and start analyzing all your approaches starting from as far back as you can remember to today. See if you can find what changed between then and now. Perhaps the girls in your neighborhood are really conservative and your flashy clothes just don't work for them. Perhaps it's the acne. Perhaps it's the fact that school just started and they have less time for guys. Perhaps it's the weather. You're right on one thing though, the only thing left to do is keep trying. That and learning from your mistakes and refining your methods. You should approach a lot more. You say you got rejected every time in the last few MONTHS, but you only have 20-something rejections. So that's how many approaches you did in MONTHS? Come on, i did twice more than that in a day the other week!

 

[Krassus]

dupe

 

[big_jeffry]

listen, i think that you are being too desperate. Your mind attitude right now when you get a woman's number is "yesss, if I can get this woman, my slump will be over, and this proves I can get any woman that I want from now on."
WRONG!

Your attitude should be "hey, I've got her number, either we get what we want, or we don't."

In the first scenario, I feel you were being too desperate (calling too much etc.) and that you became so interested/obsessed, that you freaked her out and she ended up dumping you.

So, if you stay calm and collected with the 2nd attitude here, you will do just fine.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Slumps are nothing but an altered perception of how you are progressing.

Stop basing your self worth on getting women, and start living for you, and I guarantee (oddly enough) that the girls will come 'a knocking.

The Bad Ass Canadian

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by thebsharp
Have you guys ever get into a slump and you cant get out? i think am an ok looking guy, not ugly but not a model either, i dress nice and clean cut. Lately, for months it seems... i got rejected so much i lost count, i would say somewhere between 15-20 times with zero success, altho i did get approuch from some fat chicks so that doent really count.

Before when i started out, i did pretty good, i got numbers 50% of the time talking to girls but lately, they all seems repulse by me and i dont know why, it could be because i broke out alot lately. The acne is gone now but the blemished remains but its not THAT bad so i dont think thats the problem. I really dont know what am doing wrong, why do i get success before and not now? am even more stylish in my clothing and gain abit of muscle.

The only solution i can think of now is to approuch as much as possible, i surely can get 1 girl out of 50! i just hope it doent get that bad any suggestion is appreciated guys.

Read this to yourself. It reeks of desperation.

Your life is no less complete or successful if you don't get laid every weekend. Stop focus on "getting girls". Instead, go into social situations where girls are, have fun, and if you see honies you want to talk to, then go for it.

 

[SealTeamSix]

i agree with most ppl said .. when you talking to girls, do not try to pressure yourself with getting number goal. Just think that you are talking to this girl because you want to talk to her and have fun while at it, not because you want her to be your prize or score.

Or sometime relaxing can help. Ease up your mind and do solid approaches, not some mindless approaches. Then you should see some result.