Am I too ****y?

[Jblitz59]

This is a question sometimes we have to ask ourselves and too much of anything is a bad thing...
on that note I've been wondering when I am safe or when I'm just being an arrogant, prideful b*****d?

I've gotten told many times by people like you have a ****y attitude, you are arrogant, etc. I've been told by a former bestfriend who was in a fight with me when he would just throw out insults and long story short just deleted them and him out of my life. I've also been told by girls that i am ****y. i'll give the conversation with one girl next post.

so my question is, have i crossed over the line between healthy amount and excessive amount of ****yiness?

 

[Jblitz59]

JBlitz59 (3:16:02 PM): I'm great , how about you?
HB 7 (3:16:15 PM): haha could be better
JBlitz59 (3:16:52 PM): lol if you hung out with me could be better
HB 7 (3:17:07 PM): haha
JBlitz59 (3:17:16 PM): im a ****y bastard
HB 7 (3:17:31 PM): somewhat
JBlitz59 (3:17:48 PM): haha
HB 7 (3:18:00 PM): its not thatttt good of a thing to be haha
JBlitz59 (3:18:22 PM): better than being down and not having any self-esteem
HB 7 (3:18:36 PM): right but theres a difference to confidence and being ****
She meant *****y but changed the subject by saying something, 'oh have something on your mind??'

that's an example of things i could typically say

 

[scrouds]

you're not ****y... you're just trying too hard.

 

[Jblitz59]

what do you mean, trying too hard?

you mean I'm not letting her speak enough by overtalking?

 

[Jblitz59]

i'm here to improve myself so any way i can narrow down the actual problem, the faster I can find the solution.



BUMP

 

[(JJ)]

This is such a specific question that it's hard for any of us to know whether you are or aren't too ****y. This is something that you have to personally calibrate based on what you personally believe and what you personally experience. When a girl is explicitly telling you that she doesn't think that the whole "****y bastard" persona is the way to go, it might be time to listen. If it happens on a consistent basis, then it's definitely time to tone it down.

 

[Jblitz59]

thanks, i appreciate the response. I COULD ask my friends, but without knowledge of a 'healthy' amount of ****yiness they would automatically label it bad. Only a DJ could correctly interpret this. Then again, most DJ's would have to personally know me to give a correct answer..

All right I will solve it myself though. As one said in the DJB "Nothing I can't handle."

 

[horaholic]

in general, it is better to be too ****y, than not ****y enough. But yes, try to tone it down a little, and be a little more serious. And dont call yourself ****y. Something about that doesnt sound good.

A good rule of thumb is to taper off the ****iness the more time you spend with them. It is attractive to them at first, but they need to get to a point where they're able to take you seriously, or they will bail on you. Always, be playful, however.