Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'd have to agree with all of the above. The main priority now should be getting a tooth put into your mouth... not many guys would find a girl with missing teeth attractive; I'm sure it goes both ways. The goatee and skinhead are personal preferences, some women may find this attractive... the tooth though is a universal turn-off.
). As for growing my hair i have quite a high hair line which kind of makes me look a chump with any other hair style. As far as the confidence thing i'm actually quite a confident person it's more of a self esteem thing i have no problem flirting, or talking with women even using a bit of kino on occasion. I just seem to "talk" my self out of going any further thinking "she can't really be interested" or "shes just flirting with me for a bit of fun". I guess i just feel that i don't "deserve" someone and yes i know that SingleGuy4Ever ain't the best idea for a screen name it's just how i felt at the time .You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
. I guess i separate "Sexual" confidence from normal confidence in that i'm not shy have no problems speaking to women (if i have some kind of rapport with). But it seems that when most guys go to the next level (kissing more sexual kino) i some how get stuck "waiting" for them to make the next move (which the don't and seem to lose interest). I guess i'ts because the group of friends i hang with are quite close and it would be difficult to remain "friendly" with a woman i had "crashed and burned" with . Also where i live you seem to need lot's of status or social proof to really be able to pick women up, (i't seems to be the same guys getting girls every weekend). And outside of my social group i don't have any status and it all comes down to looks.