"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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am I the ^ssh0l3?

Demodulate

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senario...

we had plans saturday night for dinner.. I call her in the AM to see whats going on an to finalise the times.. she says she doesnt know what shes doing so I make plans to go to the movies with my friends... saw sin city.. good flick, anywho I call her back and give her the times, and even invite her, but shes kinda pissed.. so whatever..

I get out of the movies and call to see whats going on and shes really pissed... shes not coming to dinner. fine whatever.. go out with the boys.. get a call at 11pm shes crying and wants to comeover.. but im out, didnt drive, and at a club.. I calm her down, apparently she got into a fight with her friend she had made plans to do something with after she got mad at me.

next morning I go to a big race.. she calls me and I have to cut her short cause I cant hear a damn thing thats going.. I am at a damn race track..

call her on the way home from the track, leave a message. no response, call the next day at night, and she tells me shes pissed cause I cut her off on the phone the day before... then cuts me short, and says shes going to call back.. calls back and then says oh, i have to go my TV show is back on...

anyway she says im an ^assH0l3

but I dont see anything worng with what I did...

infact i think shes acting like an idiot...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DJDamage

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Your did nothing wrong. You offered her a date and she rejected your offer and therefore you had every right to do your own thing.

Sounds to me like your girl is a princess who wants to be the centre of attension. Now she is playing games that when you have time to talk to her, she acts buzy. Don't fall for her sh1t test and don't put up with it.

P.S
Word about cell phones - just because this great technology is available at your disposal does not mean that a girl can call you anytime when you are having fun and ruin it. Turn off the cell phone and when you are done with your fun check your messages and if you wish then return her call. Doing that will ensure that woman will not drive you insane because for a woman chit chatting on a cellphone is a fun activity and for a guy it should not be an activity, it should be used in order to set up an activity.
 

Kaine

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No she is been immature

I'm assuming you explained every thing to her in black in white, why you cut her off etc.

I would call her on her princess behaviour

Don't back down on this, she will lose respect for you

I am wondering how you have been treating her for her to react this way. Does she know she can get a reaction out of you by acting up?

Kaine
 

Demodulate

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actually she tries to get a rise out of me all the time... and she hates it cause I dont respond...
 

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How old is she? Sound like some teenage sh*(. If she's not worth playing games with I would throw her out with the trash.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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