"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Am I the best friend? Is it to late for me

AcesHigh

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Alright im gonna split this into 2 sections for those of you who dont wanna read all of it. This is my first post so be gentle plz :)

In short (Read only this part if you want the basic story): I have been on and off friends with a girl for a year. I have really just recently decided that I like her after a year of denying it to myself in order to stay friends with her. Im not sure if she likes me or not because she is pretty "touchy-feely" with everyone and espcially with me. From what ive read from the site I might fit into the best friend roll because we used to just talk alot and not really hang out but as of late we have been hanging out and doing some really fun things and just having a great time together so I dont know. So my question is is it to late for me? Am I now stuck in that best friend position forever?

In Depth(The whole thing): This girl and me had a connection when we first met we actually ended up making out one night but nothing further. The reason she is an on and off friend is because when I was going to ask her out I told my best friend I was going to and he asked her out first. Even while they were going out she still held my hand alot and hung off me and stuff like that but im not sure if thats just the way she is or not. Anyways well her and my best friend were going out I remained friends with them and I was the one she came to with all her problems that is why we always talked alot. I probably opened up to her more then I should have. Anyways after about 7 months me and my friend she was dating had a big fight and we no longer talk. So for about 4months I didnt really talk to her cause she was busy with him and I didnt wanna stir **** up. Now she has broken up with him and out of nowere called me a couple weeks ago and we have been hanging out and having a good to time. It doesnt feel like quite the connection we had a year ago but im not sure. So is it to late? Am I the best friend?

Thank you for the help and sorry for long post I tried not to make it a wall of text
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Triple T

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Doesn't seem too late if she initiated the contact to hangout with you.
It means shes INTERESTED.

But yea..you shouldn't have been dealing with her problems all the time, or you become her emotional tampon.

But thats in the past...
she initiated contact = interested in you
you guys are having fun together = you have increased the interest

Just one of these nights that your hanging out with her, kiss her.
and VOILA! Next thing you know you guys are together, gf & bf.


PS. Your friend is a D!CK
 

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Yeh we were watchin a movie late last night and I was thinking of making a move but her brother ended up coming downstairs cause he couldnt sleep and wanted to watch the rest of the movie... And yeh my friend is a complete ******* I cant believe I even stayed friends with him after that. One good thing though is he flunked his first year of college and is loser stoner now lol.
 
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