"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Am I the best friend? Is it to late for me

AcesHigh

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Alright im gonna split this into 2 sections for those of you who dont wanna read all of it. This is my first post so be gentle plz :)

In short (Read only this part if you want the basic story): I have been on and off friends with a girl for a year. I have really just recently decided that I like her after a year of denying it to myself in order to stay friends with her. Im not sure if she likes me or not because she is pretty "touchy-feely" with everyone and espcially with me. From what ive read from the site I might fit into the best friend roll because we used to just talk alot and not really hang out but as of late we have been hanging out and doing some really fun things and just having a great time together so I dont know. So my question is is it to late for me? Am I now stuck in that best friend position forever?

In Depth(The whole thing): This girl and me had a connection when we first met we actually ended up making out one night but nothing further. The reason she is an on and off friend is because when I was going to ask her out I told my best friend I was going to and he asked her out first. Even while they were going out she still held my hand alot and hung off me and stuff like that but im not sure if thats just the way she is or not. Anyways well her and my best friend were going out I remained friends with them and I was the one she came to with all her problems that is why we always talked alot. I probably opened up to her more then I should have. Anyways after about 7 months me and my friend she was dating had a big fight and we no longer talk. So for about 4months I didnt really talk to her cause she was busy with him and I didnt wanna stir **** up. Now she has broken up with him and out of nowere called me a couple weeks ago and we have been hanging out and having a good to time. It doesnt feel like quite the connection we had a year ago but im not sure. So is it to late? Am I the best friend?

Thank you for the help and sorry for long post I tried not to make it a wall of text
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Triple T

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Doesn't seem too late if she initiated the contact to hangout with you.
It means shes INTERESTED.

But yea..you shouldn't have been dealing with her problems all the time, or you become her emotional tampon.

But thats in the past...
she initiated contact = interested in you
you guys are having fun together = you have increased the interest

Just one of these nights that your hanging out with her, kiss her.
and VOILA! Next thing you know you guys are together, gf & bf.


PS. Your friend is a D!CK
 

AcesHigh

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Yeh we were watchin a movie late last night and I was thinking of making a move but her brother ended up coming downstairs cause he couldnt sleep and wanted to watch the rest of the movie... And yeh my friend is a complete ******* I cant believe I even stayed friends with him after that. One good thing though is he flunked his first year of college and is loser stoner now lol.
 
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