"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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am i taking martial arts classes for the right reasons?

TheGameMaster

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Basically, i go to this training for the following reasons.
- Gain respect from my peers.
- To be able to defend myself and others in violent situations.

I do not go because I enjoy it particularly. I mean, its OK, its not boring but i dont enjoy it like I do with football/soccer say. I sometimes find myself clock watching during sessions.

So do you think I should stick it out and keep going or am I training for the wrong reasons? I struggle with the enthusiasm for it sometimes.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PeeGee

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I don't think you're in it for the right reasons. What style are you learning anyway?

Taking MA is supposed to be enjoyable. You're learning a combat style that is several dozen generations old, with (sometimes limited) actual application.

I don't regret taking karate for as many years as I did. It's utterly useless if I ever got into a fight but it was fun and I made a lot of friends. If that doesn't sound like something worth your time, try finding something else to do.


You can gain respect from your peers a million other ways. As for fighting, that rarely happens unless you're asking / looking for it.
 

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I would say do martial arts only if you are very keen to learn. Not to gain respect or anything like that.

Probably won't get you anywhere. Why not spend the time doing something you love and enjoy?
 

Rhoto

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How long have you been training?

I hated the first five years of Tae Kwan Do. HATED IT.

I was forced to stay by my parents, and many a times I wanted to quit. Looking back, if I had quit back then, it would've all been for not.

Training isn't easy nor fun; I don't believe it should be either. Martial Arts aren't for everyone, they do require a serious commitment if you want to become proficient.

I'm not sure what you're training in, but Martial Arts aren't all about being able to punch & kick well. Its about being still both in the mind and body, still enough to strike/respond with incredible speed and thus power. And then return to stillness.

Sure, there's nothing like a team sport, those are fun and predictable. Getting punched in the face isn't.

If you really don't like it stop. But don't give up.

There is an old saying - 1 in 100 White Belts will attain a Black Belt. 1 in 1000 Black Belts will attain the second degree.
 

ready123

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Which MA are you taking?

I started taking Krav Maga classes beginning of this year. My reasons
- I always wanted to learn fighting when I was younger but didn't have the time or money
- Self-defense in the odd chance some bullsht happens
- The aerobic/anaerobic workout is ridiculously efficient
- After 9 hrs at work, I get to let loose and switch up the vibe
- I enjoy it and think it's cool

I don't do it for validation from others though. I really wanted to learn
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Pathgen

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I took Karate for a couple of years and made it all the way to brown (level before black). Then i quit because i had the same feeling as you did and i was getting tired during school. I really regret it now and have been thinking of going back.

And Kerpal getting hit was the most enjoyable part for me truthfully. Not that i like pain or i have a death wish, its just that i enjoyed the sparring part of it more than the learning of Katas. However, thats just me
 
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