"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Am I supposed to let her know or not?

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I'm confused if I'm supposed to tell her "hey I like you" or not.

BACKGROUND: girl I like has a boyfriend but plays a game trying to guess who it is, guessed herself once, I said no. Two days later after she guesses few more I tell her she's already said it but I'm not saying who it is.

We walk to 6th period together and she said she figured out who it was but won't tell me. 8th period her friend asks me who I like, then asks if it is her. I smile and say I'm not telling.

Me and girl I like stay after school for a short while and she says she knows who it is and that her friend made it 100%. We walk to get her bag then on the way back she's like...
'So, anything you want to tell me?'
'No I don't think so' *smile*
'Really, nothing?'
'I can't ..'
'Last chance'
'Sorry, I really can't ..'

The next day I walk with her to same period and I get the feeling she is trying to give me the silence treatment, so I say 'o you're really talkative today.' I get the sideways look and she's like 'you didn't tell me ..'

On the way back I say 'why aren't you talking as much as usual?' and I get 'see how much I talk to you from now on ..'

I'm sorta getting the "you didn't tell me so now it's too late" vibe from all this. Only reason I didn't go for it is because she had a boyfriend from before we even met, otherwise I'd be all over this chick.

Ehh, much longer than I wanted it to be :nervous:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lol...why did you insist on not telling her? If anything you should've joked around and said like another girl, not "i'm not telling."

Anyway, I don't know if it would be appropriate to go up to her now and be like "I like you." MIght seem sort of AFCish. But obviously she likes you
 

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Yeah I joked around but after a little I was like 'you aren't going to get me to tell you :)' but if you think it's obvious that she likes me then ok, I'll act that way.
 

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hmm. how old are you. out of curiosity. I've played this game before, but this was like in 8th grade. and apparently played my cards wrong.

:( eventually it went from interesting to pointless, so keep her interest with witty answers and things like that, but I dont know if you should just come right out and tell her it's her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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16 ^^ 10th grade

Thing is, I've heard that telling her could be the worst possible move, which is why I didn't. Now I'm not sure if I did the right thing or not.
 

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Argh kids!!
Games are good if they are played well. Can't believe i read this far.

Its game over kid.

You could have just looked at her in the end and said 'the answer is staring right at you!' trick answer but a good conclusiom to the game.

All Games must come to an end. Do you expect to play forever?

There nothing wrong in telling a girl you like her. Telling her you love her is another case.
 

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ZenGodMod said:
Argh kids!!
Games are good if they are played well. Can't believe i read this far.

Its game over kid.

You could have just looked at her in the end and said 'the answer is staring right at you!' trick answer but a good conclusiom to the game.

All Games must come to an end. Do you expect to play forever?

There nothing wrong in telling a girl you like her. Telling her you love her is another case.
Thanks, I wasn't sure. :up:
But it's HS, I don't ever thing it's completely over ;)
 
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