"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Am I supposed to let her know or not?

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I'm confused if I'm supposed to tell her "hey I like you" or not.

BACKGROUND: girl I like has a boyfriend but plays a game trying to guess who it is, guessed herself once, I said no. Two days later after she guesses few more I tell her she's already said it but I'm not saying who it is.

We walk to 6th period together and she said she figured out who it was but won't tell me. 8th period her friend asks me who I like, then asks if it is her. I smile and say I'm not telling.

Me and girl I like stay after school for a short while and she says she knows who it is and that her friend made it 100%. We walk to get her bag then on the way back she's like...
'So, anything you want to tell me?'
'No I don't think so' *smile*
'Really, nothing?'
'I can't ..'
'Last chance'
'Sorry, I really can't ..'

The next day I walk with her to same period and I get the feeling she is trying to give me the silence treatment, so I say 'o you're really talkative today.' I get the sideways look and she's like 'you didn't tell me ..'

On the way back I say 'why aren't you talking as much as usual?' and I get 'see how much I talk to you from now on ..'

I'm sorta getting the "you didn't tell me so now it's too late" vibe from all this. Only reason I didn't go for it is because she had a boyfriend from before we even met, otherwise I'd be all over this chick.

Ehh, much longer than I wanted it to be :nervous:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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lol...why did you insist on not telling her? If anything you should've joked around and said like another girl, not "i'm not telling."

Anyway, I don't know if it would be appropriate to go up to her now and be like "I like you." MIght seem sort of AFCish. But obviously she likes you
 

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Yeah I joked around but after a little I was like 'you aren't going to get me to tell you :)' but if you think it's obvious that she likes me then ok, I'll act that way.
 

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hmm. how old are you. out of curiosity. I've played this game before, but this was like in 8th grade. and apparently played my cards wrong.

:( eventually it went from interesting to pointless, so keep her interest with witty answers and things like that, but I dont know if you should just come right out and tell her it's her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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16 ^^ 10th grade

Thing is, I've heard that telling her could be the worst possible move, which is why I didn't. Now I'm not sure if I did the right thing or not.
 

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Argh kids!!
Games are good if they are played well. Can't believe i read this far.

Its game over kid.

You could have just looked at her in the end and said 'the answer is staring right at you!' trick answer but a good conclusiom to the game.

All Games must come to an end. Do you expect to play forever?

There nothing wrong in telling a girl you like her. Telling her you love her is another case.
 

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ZenGodMod said:
Argh kids!!
Games are good if they are played well. Can't believe i read this far.

Its game over kid.

You could have just looked at her in the end and said 'the answer is staring right at you!' trick answer but a good conclusiom to the game.

All Games must come to an end. Do you expect to play forever?

There nothing wrong in telling a girl you like her. Telling her you love her is another case.
Thanks, I wasn't sure. :up:
But it's HS, I don't ever thing it's completely over ;)
 
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