am i stupid?

[JustAFriend]

Hello

Im new to this forum and this is my first post. I really dont know what to do so i decided to join this forum to get some help, and hopefully i will get the help i need!

There is this ONE girl i love her, i have had feelings for about three years know and for each year they have only gotten stronger and stronger. But i dont know what to do, but as my feelings got stronger we got better and better friends and since i have never been in a real relationship before i dont know what to do etc. So we kept getting better friends and for about a half year ago she suddendly told me that she looked at me as her bestfriend. My heart broke, i knew that i never had a chance now so i decided to give up but i didnt help, when i were drunk i told her everything and it didnt come out pretty it resulted to that our friendship didnt last so much more longer. But know we have gotten a little better friends agian, and im still in love with her. But she keeps seeing other boys so i dont know what to do. Pleaes help me guys!

 

[Joshski]

Well I've been at this forum for 2 days and 1 thing I learned is that you should NEVER tell her how you feel.

 

[kokane]

Read the dj bible. Pook's posts are a great place to start. Start seeing other girls and you might just find a way to get her back.

 

[RFish]

You are too available.

Go out meet new people. When she finds out that you are having fun and enjoying without her, she will come back to you.

You guys may or may not be together but still you guys are soo young I assume you are high school. Take it slowly dude!

Welcome to the real world.

 

[JustAFriend]

everyone keeps saying the same thing, go out meet new people etc... but i really love her.

She keeps seeing other guys, but i dont know how to see other girls :S its kinda stupid but yeah whatever.

 

[She_feelin_Me]

JustAFriend

Look homie she just see's you as a friend just like your screen name...For years yall just been friends and she probably doesnt see you in that kind of way. Spend less time worrying about her and more getting your life straight. You cant love her unless she loves you back. Pick your self up man, and I have been in that situation but its something you have to get over. So many other banging broads is out there waiting but you stuck on her.

 

[Evzone]

You don't love her. You can't really tell unless you've been dating for some time and seen the ups and downs (6 months minimum), which you haven't. You just have what we call oneitis--infatuation.

Read the DJ Bible as others have suggested.

 

[Igetit!]

everyone keeps saying the same thing, go out meet new people etc... but i really love her.

Everyone keeps telling you the same thing because it's the truth. You say you've know the girl for three years. You want to know when your chances with her were over with? About 2 years and 11 months ago,and I'm NOT joking about that.

Women know within the first few minutes of meeting you and hanging around you if they're interested and attracted to you. My guess is that initially,at the beginning she probably was interested in you,but YOU never made a move. You never showed your interest by asking her out or anything like that...and women rarely make the first move.

So,since you didn't make a move,she decided that you weren't interested and moved on to other guys. But since you still kept hanging around her,laughing,joking,and playing around,she became friends with you.

It's over with dude. You missed your chance. My guess is she sees you as a "brother". When you got drunk and "told her everything",she probably felt like she wanted to vomit. That's why you two seperated shortly after that.

This girl has done nothing wrong. In fact,she's doing what we're suggesting you do...move on. Go find someone who's interested in you...which is EXACTLY what she did when she thought you weren't interested when you never asked her out.


I suppose that since you "love her",you'll probably continue to go after her.

It's your right to do so,just don't waste another 3 years of you life doing it.

She keeps seeing other guys, but i dont know how to see other girls

What do you mean she keeps seeing other guys? What's she supposed to do? Stay single? Be alone?

You had an opportunity to ask her out back when she was interested,but you didn't do it. Most likely because you were afraid of rejection.

Well? What was she supposed to do...keep waiting on you? Was she supposed to be alone until you finally got enough courage to show her your interest...which was 3 years later?

And not only that,but you had to be drunk to do it.

Sorry dude,if you're too afraid of rejection to make a move,that's YOUR FAULT/YOUR PROBLEM.

 

[JustAFriend]

she never were interested in me... about three years ago i was, had glases and braces. I never talked to her i only thougt she were pretty.. but after a year we started to talk a little bit but very rarely like hi and goodbye.. but the last year after the summer when we started in 10th grade i had become thin, did not were glasses no braces etc... but all my friends liked her to so i didnt care but then me and her started to spend more and more time and thats when the feelings started to come but i didnt see it coming because i didnt care about that much because all of my friends were hitting on her.. so when they all got there own girlfriends i really saw how unqiue she were and than it was to late... i really want to move on and everyone keeps saying it i know thats the right thing to do but i dont know how to.. im not a very good ladies man and i dont have the confident to talk to people i have never met and especially not girls.. so please help me.

i m problay hoping that she will take me back one day thats why i cant forget her,, but i now thats never going to happen but still i cant quit :S

 

[Igetit!]

i m problay hoping that she will take me back one day thats why i cant forget her,, but i now thats never going to happen but still i cant quit :S

This ISN'T GOING TO HAPPEN.

You have to realize something...

This is REAL LIFE. This ISN'T A MOVIE.

There's no fairytale happy ending.

You keep asking for help,and that's what everyone is doing.

We deal in REALITY on the forum,and the reality is sometimes,YOU DON'T GET THE GIRL.

This is one of those times.

I don't want to get into the whole "HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR WOMEN" thing right now. But know this:You've screwed up. It's over with.

If you're looking for some magic wand on the forum that we can wave and make everything all better,it's not going to happen.

I know that you may feel hurt over this situation,but all you can do is just feel hurt until you no longer feel hurt anymore.

What everyone is trying to do is help you get over this pain as soon as possible,yet you seem bent on dragging it out.

Well don't let us stop you. You want to go through another 3 years of this heart-ache,be our guest.

We'll still be here to help you out when you get done.

There no point in repeating what I've already said about moving on.

You'll either do it or not,but good luck with whatever you decide.

 

[eaglez1177]

Bro dont even use the word love cuz you dont have the slightest clue to what it really is. Read the dj bible my friend, you need a lot of help.

 

[JustAFriend]

i know i need i need help, and i want to get over her but i dont know how. Im not very good with meeting new people i barley speak to other guys who i never have talked to how am i supposed to chat with girls that i have never met before :S i really want to get over that girl, and i thougt that this forum could help me get over her and help me meet other people.. and what is this dj bible?

 

[jeffthechef]

the dj bible link is at the bottom of every page on this forum

and if you have trouble meeting new people..you should definitely read the dj bible

and briefly on meeting new people...all you do is say hi..introduce yourself..then talk..not much else

if they are ****s/*****es about it, just walk away...but i highly doubt nowadays are that rude...some will just make small talk with you..and some will become good friends with you