"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Am I still good with this one?

Weezy

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Quick story..

My Buddy is in town and his sister comes out with us. My buddy locks down a chick and leaves me and his sister at the bar.

Next thing I know (literally) I'm in a cab going back to his sisters place.

I'm pretty much right on the line of blacked out and fuzzy..

I was tripping that night cause her brother is a good friend. She told me well you can stay on the couch if you want but I'm going to bed. I said some **** about how her brother would be mad at us, she told me no, he'll be mad at you. Then I get her in bed and say some AFC **** about how cool she is and how she's what I've been looking for.. Again, she calls me out for my crazy talk and how I was just talking about my Ex 2 days ago..

Wake up next morning, I'm naked in her bed and sober enough not to say anything stupid. She's just got on some shorts and that's it.. We **** around for around 3 hours in the morning then she drops me off at my buddies house. She gets my number before she leaves cause the roads are icy and she wants to call me incase she gets stuck.

She calls like 30 minutes later to tell me she just lied to her brother and said I just stayed on the couch.. I'm in a car with 3 buddies so I tell her I'll hit her back later.

5 hours or so later I call her back, get a VM, tell her brother didn't ask me anything so she must have done a good job lying.

She calls me back later that night and I ask how she's feeling about lying to her brother, she says, well I feel bad, I feel like we should maybe tell him BUT if it's just a one night thing there is really no need.

I don't react to this.

I then start trying to get some details about how I ended up at her place cause I really had no idea, she asks how much I remember and I say stuff was fuzzy. We BS for around 50 minutes, talking **** back and forth. Then I tell her I should let her go, that I won't say anything to her bro and I'll let her know if I change my mind and that she should do the same.

SO

This chick is awesome.. Did I have a shot still or did I go to AFC? Was planning on waiting 3 days then calling her and asking her out.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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first things first: what do you want?

This is your homies sister. Do you really want to pursue this?

If your intentions are well grounded (as in, you don't intend on treating her like just another piece of ass), you have to realize her brother is gonna trip out either way.

If not, how good a friend is he to you? And how willing are you to lose a friendship over a lay?
 

Weezy

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2crudedudes said:
first things first: what do you want?

This is your homies sister. Do you really want to pursue this?

If your intentions are well grounded (as in, you don't intend on treating her like just another piece of ass), you have to realize her brother is gonna trip out either way.

If not, how good a friend is he to you? And how willing are you to lose a friendship over a lay?
This is like wife material. Would tell him I will treat her like gold.

And I will ask my buddies permission before kicking it with her again, if he says no.. I'll walk away and never look back.
 

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Weezy said:
This is like wife material. Would tell him I will treat her like gold.

And I will ask my buddies permission before kicking it with her again, if he says no.. I'll walk away and never look back.
yah wifey material takes her brothers friends home on the first night and bangs them. LOL. There is no such thing as wifey material in your story pal. She's a jumpoff. he probably knows his sister is a jumpoff which is why he would be pissed. LOL.
 

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Weezy said:
This is like wife material. no joke..

And I will ask my buddies permission before kicking it with her again, if he says no.. I'll walk and never look back.
Depending on how good friends you guys are, he might actually understand, you just have to prove to him she's not just another notch in your belt. I remember in high school, my friend wanted me to take his sister to Senior Prom and kinda insisted on it (she had a crush on me, I later found out) but because I figured I wouldn't want anything serious, I tried as kindly as possible to decline. This AFC behavior is probably why he felt comfortable asking me to take her out to begin with, but at the time I thought I knew better. Looking back, considering that her brother and I don't really talk anymore, it probably would have been alright if I took her and boned her just for kicks.

C'est la vie.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Warrior74 said:
yah wifey material takes her brothers friends home on the first night and bangs them. LOL. There is no such thing as wifey material in your story pal. She's a jumpoff. he probably knows his sister is a jumpoff which is why he would be pissed. LOL.
Nah, we didn't bang.. she wouldn't even let me touch her pdussy. Take my word she is like the nicest girl ever, which is why I'm shocked it all went down like this.
 

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Nah, we didn't bang.. she wouldn't even let me touch her pdussy. Take my word she is like the nicest girl ever, which is why I'm shocked it all went down like this.
you sure? you mentioned being borderline blacking out.
 

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Weezy said:
We BS for around 50 minutes, talking **** back and forth. Then I tell her I should let her go...
This is so common and so AFC... It's fishing for feedback and sounds like 'are you enjoying our conversation?' and 'I know your time is scarce while mine is worthless'...

Next time keep the conversation short and say that you must go (you're the one who's busy, you're the one who's not always available. And do that while the conversation is at its peak, that way you leave her wanting more...
 
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