"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Am I setting myself up for disaster

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I am currently seeing this girl and we have hung out a total of 3 times. The first time was just a casual first time meeting with the friends that hooked us up. The second time we all went to a few bars. The 3rd time was the first time that either one of us weren't drinking and we decided to go to a movie, just the two of us. The night ended with a long kiss between us and there was a lot of touching but neither one of us pushed the envelope with the areas of touching.

I am someone who like to take things slow but I keep on reading all stuff that If I do take things slow I could very easily slip into the friends or too nice guy zone. I do not want to do that. Do all of you agree I currently am in dager of doing that?

If so, what next, and specific suggestions?

Oh I am trying to build a LTR.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sounds like your doing fine to me....

1st one on one date and you had a long kiss....
 
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Just keep progressing. Next time make it at least 2 long kisses and get just a tad feely. The third date, keep pushing the envelope. You will get it
 
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Demodulate

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also dont think about fvcking it up, thats not the mest mind set to be in....
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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that fact that you're asking that question (e.g. disaster) raises a yellow flag as to your mind set. you are in the "i don't want to fvck this up" mind set. which of course leads me to believe that you don't have any other options available. which is cool, just keep that in mind.

but chicks usually don't kiss a dude that they've put into the friend zone, so it seems you're cool.

fvck her the first chance you get, if that's what you want to do. don't go out on any more "dates" with her and her friends. isolate her until you close the deal.
 
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There is nothing wrong with taking things slow. The bottom line is that you are still taking things somewhere, as opposed to a nice guy who gets put in the friendzone for not taking anything at all.. keep up the good work and maintain your pace...
 
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