Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Am I reading the signals right.

mysterymanelp

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There is this coworker that I am very very attractive to. On certain occassion she has offered me cake, candy etc. I'm a network tech. So today I happen to call her desk and ask her about two users that were having issues. I ask her if she has any candy left. She says yes so I tell her to bring me some she brings me a coke, ice cream and candy. I tell her to give me a hug and she does.

She tells me that her and a couple of coworkers are having a pot luck , and if i want any food. I tell her sure she brings me back some nachos. I ask her a couple of questions about herself, and i tell her I have to get back to work. But, before she leaves i tell her again to give me a hug which she does. While she is walking out i tell her I'm gonna let her take me out sometime she says sure and thats the end of it.

The vibe i am getting is that she is interested. Am i reading the vibes right. I'm thinking about getting her number, but im not sure if i should.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ER!C L!VE

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1. Office relationships are a bad idea.

2. Many married people met in the workplace.

3. I suggest that you not just ask her for her number. Rather, be smooth and:

4. Get some guys together for a Friday 'happy hour' and invite her and a few of her girlfriends along. Sit next to her at the bar / isolate her from everyone and chat with her and catch some more vibes and go from there.

A smoother means to an end.

Eric
 

icecreaman

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If your not going to be at this job for that long, go ahead and BANG!!! her. If this is your career then all I have to say is:

DONT S@#T WHERE YOU EAT SON!!!
 

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I think she's trying to make you get real fat by loading you up on all that junk food. Then, after you suffer a heart attack, she'll get your job.

Seriously, it's not a good idea to put your peter in the company payroll.
 

Doppler4000

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Why are you asking this woman for candy and hugging her all the time? It's like you're that touchy-feely guy in high school. I'd quit with all the hugging.

If you really wanted to go against good sense and attempt to ask out someone you work with, the time to get her number was after you made the comment about going out sometime and she said sure. You'll never get a better moment for it than that. As far as what she thinks... we have no possible way of knowing if she's interested or just humoring some guy who always wants to hug her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I think you need to read Player_Supreme's post on Stackin Evidence and his other post on Observation. I think that would help you to figure this sh*t out for yourself. Also, be careful with the office romances. If you don't have to work directly together and you don't think the two of you will be long-term co-workers then, f*ck it, see what's good with that b*tch. Ya feel me?
 

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Oh yeah, please stop with that hugging sh*t. This is the Mature section of the forum and we older cats stopped asking chicks for hugs many, many, moons ago. F*ck the hugs, spit some game at this chick and bang it but none of that huggy wuggy stuff. Please!!
 

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Originally posted by mysterymanelp
I tell her to give me a hug and she does.

But, before she leaves i tell her again to give me a hug which she does.
I'm gonna f*cking puke.
 

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Next time, skip the hug and the candy (What the f*ck is it with the recent posts about getting candy from b*tches?) and tell her to get under your desk and s*ck your c*ck. That'll tell you her interest level real quick if you can't figure it out. If she does it, post up and tell us all about it. And if she doesn't, you'll have plenty of time to read the back posts after you get fired. Either way, you'll know whether or not to ask her out.
 

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I talked to a female friend and she pretty much told me that from a girls point of view that she is PROBALY INTERESTED. So i'm gonna go and ask her to meet up with me for some drinks. I'm gonna see where it goes from there.

I got another job offer so that is why i am persuing this office girl. Other wise i would have done nothing about it.

I asked for the hug to see if she would do it or not. I'll keep everybody up on the dl.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Beware of advice from female friends because those are the same b*tches that will tell you all you need to do is be yourself and act nice and I think we all know where that sh*t leads to and it's not good.
 

mysterymanelp

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funny thing is her advice was right. The chick was interested. Me and the girl were suppose to meet up today for lunch, but I cancelled on her. The girl at work gave me her number and everything. She says that she is interested she just havent been in the dating seen for 8 years
 

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How old are you? This post makes you like sound like you're about 17!
 
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