Am I overreacting?

[DJorBUST]

I have been dating a girl for awhile (we're on our 7th or 8th date). I made out with her briefly a couple of dates ago. However, on the last date I really had to push her to get a peck on the lips and she sorta turned her head away from me after I tried it. She did kiss me on the lips quickly at the end of the date.

She has a childhood friend who is basically a player who owns a small business. She hangs around him a lot, has dinner with him, spends time at his place and now he has hired her to do some part time office work with him to make some extra $$$ on the side of her normal job. On our last date she showed me some electronics toy that he bought her that day and talked about the fun they had driving around together. She refers to him as her "friend". I was holding her in my arms later that night and she began talking about how funny he is and how much fun she has around him. She's still calling\messaging me like she normally does, but she has made it clear that she's not looking for a long-term thing right now. She has mostly male friends and goes to the beach and out to dinner with several of them. How the hell do I interpret this?? My friends tell me to just dump her and that she's really bad news. I REALLY REALLY like this girl and she said she's interested in me. Am I overreacting to think I should dump her and move on?

 

[PectoralisMajor]

She's made it clear she doesnt want to be commited ( to you anyway) at the moment. Sounds like she's playing the field.

This girl DEFINATELY likes this other guy, and they are probably f*cking, or thats her end goal. Take my word for it.

its quite simple, you have two choices

1) dump her - if you cant handle being the bit on the side ( or her friend, if you get ljbf)

2) keep hanging out with her when its convenient for YOU, keep flirting, but whatever you do dont get attached to her emotionally.

The clever option is number 2), assuming you can hack it and play the game.

Oh also, dont chase this girl, nor give her too much attention. It will turn her off if your needy and always available.

good luck

 

[DJorBUST]

I'm not so sure you can conclude she wants to **** him because they're hanging out and he bought her something. She's been friends with him since she was five years. I do think he wants to **** her though.

What is the point of flirting with her occassionally on the side if her goal is to **** this guy who clearly wants to **** her? So I can still be in contact with her to know when I've failed?

 

[Phyzzle]

She has mostly male friends

And you're one of them.

I really had to push her to get a peck on the lips

Ick. Bad idea to push anything.

She said she's interested in me.

Well, even if she is, she's interested in other guys just as much, if not more. I mean, you mainly just go out to restaurants and do stuff like that, just like she does with her other guy friends.

The next time she says "I'm interested in you", just say "come closer, come closer" until she's kissing you. If she backs off, ask her just WTF she's interested in doing with you.

 

[IceCream]

Classic case of oneitis. Keep busy/ date other girls... start cutting your contacts with her.. Always have a plan B.

 

[Adrian]

That's clearly disrespect on her behalf. I know your pain because I've been through the same exact situation in a LTR.

PectoralisMajor She's made it clear she doesnt want to be commited ( to you anyway) at the moment. Sounds like she's playing the field.

This girl DEFINATELY likes this other guy, and they are probably f*cking, or thats her end goal. Take my word for it.

This is the definitely case. If you play your cards right then fvck the **** out of her and take this hor for what she is. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you'll find a better one. Believe me.

 

[Adrian]

As the matter of fact ignore the last three sentences from my previous reply and don't try to fvck her. Just start moving on NOW!