Am I on a short leash?

[ProtoMan1]

when a mature healthy chic likes you she does not let you know she likes you by ignoring you!

be careful how you are reading her actions here. you sound like you've almost got oneitis. the more she treats you badly the more you somehow think she likes you.

I hear you loud and clear. I only ask because before we were flirting, touching, having lunch together, laughing together, etc. And I have told her that I'd take her out and find something to do with her.

I have NOT yet, and believe that this is the reason why she is giving me the cold shoulder. I'm seeing it as her way of letting me know she is pissed at me because I haven't done anything yet. I believe (thinks) that she likes me, otherwise why would she treat me way and nice to everyone else? hehehe.

But I understand that if a woman is interested she will let you know, but at some point, women let guys know that whey they are pissed at you, its because of you. I'm not thinking that the more badly she treats me she likes me more, I believe its that she is mad because I haven't asked her out.

When I talked on the phone with her I just asked, how you are doing type questions. Of course she gave short answers but seemed glad that I called and said something about getting together. So I think the only solution here is to take you guys' advice and somehow ask her out because I think that is the cause of all this female grief she is giving me.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Everytime that a man reacts to a woman's emotional state, he enters her frame - and because it a frame of HER design, you are not in control ,she is.

Top notch advise Jophil28. This little nugget of wisdom needs to be emphasized, re-read, and burned into the brain.

'Reacting' to a woman's emotional state is akin to putting your head directly on the chopping block. Nothing good can come out of reacting.

Either ignore this woman's manipulating behavior, or reframe it and take a proactive approach and lead.