So I talk to this girl on the phone all the time and I kinda like her and I think she is starting to kinda like me. We're both going to Vegas next month together. I always tell her I don't want a girlfriend whatever and she says she doesn't want a boyfriend cause she doesn't 'know what she wants', she tells me her life story and blah blah. BUT... I always post pictures of me and other girls I meet at clubs and stuff on my myspace and I have a ton of pics of me with other women. Will this ruin my chances with getting with the girl I am talking to? Or would it just make her want me more? Any idea on how I can continue to making it so this chick that I will meet in Vegas I will end up hooking up with?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Am I messing my chances by posting pics of me with other girls?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
BrokenLeftWing
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What are you doing talking on the phone with her all the time? Only talk on the phone when your setting something up with her:cuss: . And no, It doesn't hurt that you have pics of you up with other chicks. But only show a few of the hottest chicks. You don't want over-kill.baurman said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No, it will not ruin your chances. It will make you more interesting. Girls love guys that other girls like. Don't change anything for a woman. Once you've become committed, some things may have to change, but not the mystery and unpredictability.
So, just keep doing what you're doing and everything will come out just fine.
Good luck, Bro.
So, just keep doing what you're doing and everything will come out just fine.
Good luck, Bro.
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This was hotly debated on POF in the forums pretty often. Of course, all the girls "said" they were against it and that it was a total turn off for them, but what a girls logical reaction is, and what actually goes through her head when she sees you with an attractive women, are definitely two different things.
I wish I had a better answer for you. I played with my profile, and had a picture of me with a hottie I was dating, and then other times, took it down. I didn't keep stats, but the results werent overwhelming conclusive one way or the other.
One thing people universally seem to agree on- it's kind of like setting the bar. I think the same thing when I see girls profiles, that it's probably a guy she was dating or the crowd she runs with, and you kind of compare yourself physically to him.
That being said, it might also be a good deterrent for keeping fatties or ugly chicks away too. Sorry to sound crude about it, but I continually get messages from girls I would NEVER go out with (overweight, bad hair/dress, 5-10 years older, 3 kids, etc).
Anyway, I guess what my findings were- if I couldn't notice an extreme changes in amount of messages I got, it definitely wasn't killing my chances. Whether or not I could say it helped me, I don't know either.
I wish I had a better answer for you. I played with my profile, and had a picture of me with a hottie I was dating, and then other times, took it down. I didn't keep stats, but the results werent overwhelming conclusive one way or the other.
One thing people universally seem to agree on- it's kind of like setting the bar. I think the same thing when I see girls profiles, that it's probably a guy she was dating or the crowd she runs with, and you kind of compare yourself physically to him.
That being said, it might also be a good deterrent for keeping fatties or ugly chicks away too. Sorry to sound crude about it, but I continually get messages from girls I would NEVER go out with (overweight, bad hair/dress, 5-10 years older, 3 kids, etc).
Anyway, I guess what my findings were- if I couldn't notice an extreme changes in amount of messages I got, it definitely wasn't killing my chances. Whether or not I could say it helped me, I don't know either.
Dude I don't know, she could be "hooking up" with guys after she tells you her life story on the phone. I'd make sure all your buddies are on call because if she backs out of Vegas, you won't need to tell anyone what happens in Vages stay in Vegas.baurman said:
Studies were conducted where a 100 random women viewed 100 pictures of male faces and rated them on attractiveness, a 100 random women viewed the pictures of the same 100 male faces but with another person smileing at them in the image, The people in the second set of pictures were rated higher in attractiveness.
This is social proof guys, use it to your advantage. Use pictures of yourself with beautiful women to 'accidently' show your succesful, dont make it obvious that you want to get that across.
This is social proof guys, use it to your advantage. Use pictures of yourself with beautiful women to 'accidently' show your succesful, dont make it obvious that you want to get that across.