Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Am I Looking For Too Much?

seanarcher

Banned
Joined
Oct 19, 2008
Messages
37
Reaction score
0
I had a friend with benefits in college who reminded me of Roz from Frasier, classy but sexy looking, fun to be around but not a ditz, you get the idea. She never asked "Where do you see this going?" or got emotional after the sex. We would cuddle and watch tv after and then shower together before classes.

I'm sure you could find this kind of a girl for a relationship if you threw the commitment word at her, but it's not what I'm looking for. I want to be single, because as most of you know, any given moment you can meet a just as attractive or more attractive chick than you currently have, and I like keeping my options open.

That being said I'm not a bar or club guy. For some guys they like it great. I don't. For me I never feel any accomplishment getting buzzed, pretending to be drunk and banging some chick who's wasted after 2 light beers.

I also can't stand annoying or ditzy girls. Instant turn-off even if just for sex. In fantasy, a girl has no personality. You look at a picture or video when you masturbate, personality doesn't matter. In real life, for me anyway, even though I just want sex, if the girl seems thick-headed or is annoying in some way, it takes away all sexual attraction.

I can't tell you how many gold diggers or commitment freaks I've met that ask me after the first time we hang out "Where do see us in two years?" I'm sure there's a certain amount of satisfaction that comes with pounding one of these girls and knowing that she's crying after you hit and run, but I'm not that kind of guy. I'd just like to meet cool women that want my d*** in their a**.

Is this asking for too much?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Dedication

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jul 26, 2008
Messages
321
Reaction score
11
You have my permission to think that you are not looking for to much.
 

seanarcher

Banned
Joined
Oct 19, 2008
Messages
37
Reaction score
0
My point is that girls should want to have sex, not use it as a reward. It's a natural relationship between a man and woman, why do they make it so emotional? I know why, brainwashing from chick flicks and upbringing, but they can undo that, can't they?
 

DonJuan11

Master Don Juan
Joined
Aug 16, 2007
Messages
1,667
Reaction score
35
seanarcher said:
I'm sure you could find this kind of a girl for a relationship if you threw the commitment word at her, but it's not what I'm looking for. I want to be single, because as most of you know, any given moment you can meet a just as attractive or more attractive chick than you currently have, and I like keeping my options open.

I also can't stand annoying or ditzy girls. Instant turn-off even if just for sex. In fantasy, a girl has no personality. You look at a picture or video when you masturbate, personality doesn't matter. In real life, for me anyway, even though I just want sex, if the girl seems thick-headed or is annoying in some way, it takes away all sexual attraction.

I can't tell you how many gold diggers or commitment freaks I've met that ask me after the first time we hang out "Where do see us in two years?" I'm sure there's a certain amount of satisfaction that comes with pounding one of these girls and knowing that she's crying after you hit and run, but I'm not that kind of guy. I'd just like to meet cool women that want my d*** in their a**.

Is this asking for too much?
Sounds like you want your cake and eat it too. You want a hot girl who will sleep with you but hasn't slept with alot of guys, but don't want to spend money on her or have a relationship with her. Isn't that kind of a prostitute?
 

seanarcher

Banned
Joined
Oct 19, 2008
Messages
37
Reaction score
0
You're right about me wanting to have the cake and eat it, too, but as far as how many guys the woman's slept with, I could care less. Roz was a man-hungry sex-addict in Frasier, she just wasn't annoying to be around. But you're right. I want a certain level of intimacy without commiting. Most guys that just want sex could care less if the girl didn't know her own name, but I want a mature girl who wants sex. I expect any girl to have had a lot of sex. Even if she's fat or butt-ugly, unless she's uber-shy, doesn't leave the house, or is religious, she's slept with her share of guys. That doesn't matter to me. I just want a girl that I can **** and have some decent pillow talk with too and not want to put on my pants and go home right after doing the deed, and I don't want to have to commit to do this. I suppose maybe open relationship is what I'm looking for, or multi long-term relationships.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Top