Am I just bad at reading signs??

[CBear]

Okay so I've dated multiple women so I feel like I know the signs of when a girl is into you. If anyone has read my last thread, this shy chick in college would always sit next to me, wait to talk to me after class, laugh at literally anything I said, enthusiastically said yes to an invitation to hang out after our classes were over, wouldn't mind me initiating kino on her, also caught her friend staring at me multiple times.

I wasn't even going for her to begin with, I just asked her on Valentines day if she was doing anything and she responded with "*sigh* no, you?" So that's when I started talking to her more because I didn't mind doing something with her.

Apparently she's dating a dude or has a boyfriend that she never mentioned and I found out through my (girl) friend who became friends with her as well.

I just need some words of wisdom because I'm so confused right now. I feel like I'm at my peak with confidence and I model as well (this dude she's with is MUCH less attractive than me) so there's no issue with looks. & I feel like I've wasted time getting to know her (tried to do this slowly since ik for a fact that she's nervous around me).
Even if this chick is open for just sex (which idk because she seems inexperienced), my morals and values wouldn't allow me to do it. Maybe she doesn't know what she's doing, maybe she's just looking for an orbiter?

Just to clarify, I'm not disappointed about the situation, I'm just confused whether Ik the signs of attraction anymore. Any advice or info would be so much appreciated.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Don't bother with her and move on. She's superficially attracted to you, but at the same time she's using you as an orbiter. The fact she can think to herself "I have a boyfriend AND I can keep this male model hanging around on me by flirting with him" means she's having her cake and eating it.

If you were to be more flirty with her, she might cheat with you but I wouldn't recommend that path (ethics as you said).

But I've had this a lot from girls who are interested but can't have me. Instead they try to turn you into a pet that they can flirt with without consequence, and you get nothing in return. Don't fall for it.

 

[The Duke]

This other guy is probably where the answer lies. I'm guessing she is still into him. She branch swung to you because she was mad at him. Now they patched
things up and back to him she goes. Its always tough to out do a guy that has a deeper connection to her than you do.

Their desire for attention and validation never goes away. As long as you are supplying that they are getting most of what they want. But the guy who triggers the most emotions in her holds the trump card. she can get attention and validation from any guy off the street. But finding a guy that triggers the right emotions is what they are after.

Don't take them seriously. Its best to just play the game like they do. Women are very fickle and the ones in their 40's that still have options still act this stupid. Put yourself first. Always.

 

[CBear]

Got another funny story. & I'd like some opinions since this happened for the 1st time to me and I found it weird af.

Went to a party(more like a get together with everyone sitting in a room and drinking). and met this 19 year old chick (before I go on, she didn't drink at all but in general, she's a complete mess and takes anti-depressents + she has bf in his late twenties although she told me later that they've basically never been "official" and he hasn't talked to her in a while, to which I laughed, got called ******* but everything went well.)).

This chick talks about sex all night and how horny she is, feels my muscles and back, and can't stop touching, laying on me and staring at me. She also wanted to go get food and talked about us getting it and joked about fking while the party went on. Then when I leave, she chases me in her car and starts dancing trying to act s3xy and sht and keep rolling her window to shout random stuff at me.

I didn't do anything because like i said, everyone was sitting together. This chick was a good friend of my buddy's gf who was there. There was even a buddy of ours who was becoming a priest so i wasn't going to start fingering her there haha.

text her 2 days later acting c0cky about her wanting me. All is well. Then I tell her we still need to get the food that she wanted to which she responded "already got it *thumbs up*". I responded that it's cool, I didn't need the extra calories anyways. No response.

I couldn't care less about this but I'd like to know what you guys think since I thought I'd surely get some. Did I end the convo to abruptly and instead should have kept texting her? or was she just an attention wh0re (which is extreme considering other attention hoes usually don't go that far imo at least and the stuff she talked about but I've been surrounded by a lot recently and being a young college student, I don't really know how to tell which is why I'm seeking advice from the best!) My prediction is that the advice will be to next time make a move literally the same night instead of waiting or to just wait it out because she'll come eventually text me or I'll see her eventually. Thanks all!!!

 

[nismo-4]

You're not in first place, the other guy is.

Just find someone you can come in first place with.

 

[MrWood]

"food" = "sex" = she already got it

 

[Stallionstud]

"food" = "sex" = she already got it

Yeah no idea why you didn’t pull the trigger on that the very same night

In contrast I once puked trying to get out of a party. Caught it all in my shirt. Walked outside threw my shirt on the naibors roof. Walked back in to say goodbye. Got hit on, immediately offered her to join me at my place (where I was walking to) she says “I don’t know where my shoes are” I’m like: hey I’ll carry you let’s go.

I marched a mile with that woman on my back after being puke drunk. Got laid. Good times

 

[CBear]

Yeah no idea why you didn’t pull the trigger on that the very same night

In contrast I once puked trying to get out of a party. Caught it all in my shirt. Walked outside threw my shirt on the naibors roof. Walked back in to say goodbye. Got hit on, immediately offered her to join me at my place (where I was walking to) she says “I don’t know where my shoes are” I’m like: hey I’ll carry you let’s go.

I marched a mile with that woman on my back after being puke drunk. Got laid. Good times

Haha that sounds awesome

Like I said, we were all sitting around in one room and I knew all these people and this was one of my best bud's gf's good friend lol. She'd look extra ****ty since they knew she had a bf. There was a dang seminarian sitting next to me as well. No way I was gonna tell her to get outta there. Plus I don't have my own place.

Oh well, not like it's the last time it'll happen!

 

[Stallionstud]

Well at least you didn’t puke on yourself. But the lesson is difficult situations and circumstances no Matter how bad. have solutions. Solutions with great outcomes.

 

[CBear]

Well at least you didn’t puke on yourself. But the lesson is difficult situations and circumstances no Matter how bad. have solutions. Solutions with great outcomes.

True, thanks for that.

Honestly though, puking on oneself doesn't seem so bad as it'd give them a good reason to take their shirt off without coming off as an even bigger d0uche lmao (assuming they're pretty fit)

 

[ohrein]

I think if you're in that stage, the best advice is to act as if she is interested. If you are interested in a girl, you assume she is interested in you too (although if she's obviously not, you know.. don't.. don't force yourself on her). But if it's that middle ground where you're not sure, just act as if she is. Ask her out and escalate. I know it sucks getting rejected but it sucks way more thinking you may have missed your chance. Ideally you get to a place eventually where you don't care if you missed your chance because you shrug and think she missed hers. Then you move on to the next one. In the mean time, just keep moving forward until you know she's not interested.