"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Am I in over my head?

Thundernuts

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Okay, so i went out on a date with this girl i met online, we've been talking for about three weeks. The date goes pretty damn good, we went to get some lunch, saw a movie, and then walked around at a park just shooting the ****. Had a pretty nice makeout session at the end of it all too.

Now from all the nights of talking and hanging out with her she seems pretty badass. Not to mention shes like an hb9 so i feel pretty good about it. My only concern is, i have to work for every dollar i earn. I don't get things handed to me and I still don't have my truck yet. This girl comes from a rich family, she goes to germany once a year during the summer. Just had an all around easy life.

Now she says she likes me because im different from all the other guys she's been with, says that they were spoiled *******s who thought their **** didn't stink. Now i feel she wants change, but I just don't know what im gonna do when she wants me to hang out with all these rich kids or take her to colorado or something. I mean how would a DJ handle this type of situation, should i just expect her to know I can't buy her the world, not that i would but still. Any input would be great.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah you're totally in over your head, bro. Back out.

Come on, man. You've been talking to this broad for 3 weeks and you're worried about trips to Colorado and meeting her friends? How about you worry about getting her in bed first? This ain't an Xbox game, bro. You don't gotta plan things out 200 steps in advance.

Treat her like you'd treat any other girl. No one cares about her damn background. She's into you. She likes you. And you're worried about her expecting you to "buy her the world"? Good lord, buddy. You've been on what...one date with her? What happens after date #2? You gonna freak out because you feel like she's expecting an expensive engagement ring?

You're doing fine until you have reason to believe that you're NOT doing fine. Stop being a nerd and worrying about dumb s**t that has no impact on your life right now. You could be f**kin homeless, and if you're banging a girl the right way and keeping her interested, she'll find excuses to tolerate your broke a** whether she's a rich brat or not.
 

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You just had a great time with her...

...and now you want to put up an act, do something special, be rich, calculate and theorise your actions just because you feel inferior because she and the boys have more money than you? Wtf man? WTF? You are out of your mind. You are ''thunder nutz''.
 

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J. Darko said:
You are ''thunder nutz''.
Very funny. I mean im not gonna be putting up an act for this girl and i definately am not making a game plan, i've just never been with a rich girl its plain and simple.

Iceberg, your a brutal s.o.b. but you give some damn good advice. I'm just gonna be me and if she doesn't like it she can suck it.
 

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Iceberg said:
Yeah you're totally in over your head, bro. Back out.

Come on, man. You've been talking to this broad for 3 weeks and you're worried about trips to Colorado and meeting her friends? How about you worry about getting her in bed first? This ain't an Xbox game, bro. You don't gotta plan things out 200 steps in advance.

Treat her like you'd treat any other girl. No one cares about her damn background. She's into you. She likes you. And you're worried about her expecting you to "buy her the world"? Good lord, buddy. You've been on what...one date with her? What happens after date #2? You gonna freak out because you feel like she's expecting an expensive engagement ring?

You're doing fine until you have reason to believe that you're NOT doing fine. Stop being a nerd and worrying about dumb s**t that has no impact on your life right now. You could be f**kin homeless, and if you're banging a girl the right way and keeping her interested, she'll find excuses to tolerate your broke a** whether she's a rich brat or not.
:up:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Iceberg said:
Yeah you're totally in over your head, bro. Back out.

Come on, man. You've been talking to this broad for 3 weeks and you're worried about trips to Colorado and meeting her friends? How about you worry about getting her in bed first? This ain't an Xbox game, bro. You don't gotta plan things out 200 steps in advance.

Treat her like you'd treat any other girl. No one cares about her damn background. She's into you. She likes you. And you're worried about her expecting you to "buy her the world"? Good lord, buddy. You've been on what...one date with her? What happens after date #2? You gonna freak out because you feel like she's expecting an expensive engagement ring?

You're doing fine until you have reason to believe that you're NOT doing fine. Stop being a nerd and worrying about dumb s**t that has no impact on your life right now. You could be f**kin homeless, and if you're banging a girl the right way and keeping her interested, she'll find excuses to tolerate your broke a** whether she's a rich brat or not.
wOW THIS IS BY FAR THE BEST RANT i HAVE EVER SEEN ON THIS SITE. Sounds Like a player supreme rant lol. Yeah come on dude a real man would not only not stress bout her having money but would use that as areason to make her their bottom b1tch cus she has money to take care of her man.
 

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joe henny said:
wOW THIS IS BY FAR THE BEST RANT i HAVE EVER SEEN ON THIS SITE. Sounds Like a player supreme rant lol.
yeah it seems like i just bring out the worst, or the best of Iceberg. Ive been really just thinking about it all day long...im gonna spoil her a little more by letting her touch my penis but yall are right, money really isnt the most important thing im over analyzing the whole thing.
 

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I understand how u feel, because when i was broke 2 years ago, I started hooking up with this rich chick.

Just treat her like any other girl, there is nothing better than having a rich girl.
 

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Thundernuts said:
yeah it seems like i just bring out the worst, or the best of Iceberg. Ive been really just thinking about it all day long...im gonna spoil her a little more by letting her touch my penis but yall are right, money really isnt the most important thing im over analyzing the whole thing.
Well I don't mean to trash you. But you should have seen the look on my face when I was at work reading that first post. You INVENTED a problem.

The girl went on a date with you, and she said she liked you because you were different from her rich friends. So what do you do? You freak out because you're not as rich as the friends that she doesn't want you to be like anyway. Then you proceed to worry about not being able to afford vacations with her.....which won't even factor in to your relationship until you've been dating for let's say 8 - 12 months. You've been on one date with the girl, and you're worried about crap that MIGHT happen IF you are still dating her a year from now.

You gotta see how comical that is. Loosen up. Things might not work out with this girl for 100 different reasons. Getting down on yourself because you're not as rich as her does absolutely nothing for you. In fact, it's borderline crazy.
 

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Iceberg said:
You gotta see how comical that is. Loosen up. Things might not work out with this girl for 100 different reasons. Getting down on yourself because you're not as rich as her does absolutely nothing for you. In fact, it's borderline crazy.
you know i appreciate the advice really and i definately haven't voiced this concern, i mean after reading everyone's replies i kind of slapped myself in the face for worrying to much about it. **** she asked me out( that never happened before) and with this thread it has really re-enforced my confidence. Yeah you know im just gonna take her at face value, she knows im not rich so at least i don't have to worry about this **** really unless we get serious wich i ain't even thinking about right now.

Thankyou everyone for your help, im actually learning things i promise lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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