Am I in?...or not?

[Elf2]

Met this girl in school about a month ago (shes way younger...senior and frosh)...blah blah blah..didn't really talk to her much for about a month after that. Inbetween that I mentioned to one of her friends that I thought she was beautiful..her friend told her. blah blah blah.

A couple of days ago we started talking again...I asked her if her friend had told her anything that I had said and she said yes and that she was flattered blah blah blah. Then she said that she thinks we should "def hang out more" and started to ask me about how my past relationships were and what "type" of girl I like...I told her what I like and she said that was the best answer she has ever got.

She told me what kinda guy she liked too and in my mind I think I fit the bill pretty well but then again it what she SAID, not what she subconsciously wants right? So yea it ended with me saying how I really enjoyed talking to her and so did she blah blah blah... and that was it.

So I day later I text her asking her whats up..said she was with friends so I left her alone so I wouldn't annoy her...hours after that she said she going out to eat with her fam and that she'll text me later that night....never did..

Next day I text her...busy with the fam (thanksgiving)..so I'm like ok just let me know when you can talk...no answer for the whole night...text her like 4 hours later asking if shes busy..no answer

So either
(a) I'm annoying her to the point where it's bad and making her repel from me
(b) shes indiffrent towards me, has no interest and would rather talk to someone else
(c) shes playing hard to get (?)
(d) something else?

 

[Docs]

or...
e) She threw you interest...piles of it...stuff like "What kinda girls do you like -> Best answer", "What guys she's into -> Ironicly...sounds like you"....

And...you're not proceeding. You aren't flirting with her, you're doing nothing to keep her interest up, so the next time you see her, give her a surprising run up hug or something, kickstart that interest.

 

[Elf2]

Hm, I see.

Being that this is a long weekend I'll be away I won't be able to see her until Monday....so yea...and I don't think I should text her anymore because I dont want to show TOO much interest... Right? I should be ready to walkaway correct?

 

[The Real Ice Man]

A better way to have handled the "what kind of girls do you like?" question...

girl: "sooooo, Elf2, what kind of girls do you like???"

Elf2: "ones with big tits"

Elf2 walks away

girl: *shocked and slightly arroused*

 

[Precursor]

or.. F) you should stop listening to what she says and pay attention to what she does

 

[bambino]

Elf2.. What you need to do is let her come to you. You have better things to do right? If you do, then do it. Hang out with friends, kick it with homies and have a good time while she'll probably be at home eating leftover turkey.

You need to stop texting her and let her INITIATE. Bro, if you can NOT talk to her or "ignore" her for a couple days then that will get her thinking about you. Trust me. Work your game, you don't need her cuz you have better things to do but don't be a total jackass unless you know you can pull it off.

So don't text her. If she texts you.. DON'T text back. Just wait it out a couple days and make it seem like there are more important things to do other than text/talk to her. So she'll want to get your attention and it will make YOU the prize. Believe me man, it'll work if you play it right.

Just don't make if obvious your ignoring her cuz she might think your scared of girls or something. If you see her in person make sure you keep cool, eye contact (smile if she smiles) and let her come to you. Stand your ground or stay in your spot. Be busy and talk to friends while she's just looking at you at school.

And make sure the phone conversations are less than 10-15 minutes and make em good and not awkward bro.

Good luck.

 

[Elf2]

Alright, well she did end up texting me a day later. Started talking to her blah blah and it turns out she just happens to be shopping at myfavorite clothing store (I already told her this)...so is this a coincidence or is she trying to show me that she fits into what I like? And she kept asking me questions about relationships and if I wanted one and stuff like that.

SO what should my next step be? Should I just call her on the phone and talk for like 10 minutes tonight or should I wait for tommorow and speak to her in person and ask her if she can ahng out on friday?

How do I let her know that I like her without telling her straight out?

 

[Docs]

10 minutes + Push for date. Dont' sit on the phone with her. Phone, what's up, busy, cool, done. Make up an excuse (got to work..) if you get caught up in questions.

Don't tell her you like her. Show her instead.

 

[Elf2]

Ok, so it's too late to call her so I guess my next choice is to approach her in school. Now this girl is always surrounded by male AND female friends so idk how this is gonna work out, but I should try to talk to her when she is alone correct?

So when I do talk to her should it just be a Hey (w/ hug?) -> whats up -> about to leave to do something -> date -> goodbye hug if none at start?

Or what should I talk about instead?

And how do I SHOW her that I like her?

Oh yea...thanks and props to you Doc..

 

[Docs]

Saw the rep, thanks, but I'm not God.

Yeah, you pretty well have it right there. Just talk to her. Hug if you/her want, and cut to the chase. Don't "Do you want to...", but Do "I'm doing ____ tonight and was wondering if you wanted to tag along with me.".

It's simple. End result can either be a yes or a no, but you gave it a shot. Sarge on!!

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

probably c or d

 

[Cod3r]

so yea...and I don't think I should text her anymore because I dont want to show TOO much interest... Right?

We're already past that level eh ??

And how do I SHOW her that I like her?

Try something called flirting


-Cod3r