"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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rushing dude 123

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I didn't wanna really make a post like this, but to be honest i wanted to get another perspective on this.

I have been dating this girl for 1 and a half months nearly, stayed over her house a few times as she has done in mine and we go out on a date about once a week. Now when i first went out with her i made it clear that i don't get commited to easy, but for some reason i have a feeling she thinks we may be boyfriend and girlfriend. I would of thought we would have to have some kind of discussion about this, but she does ask me a lot of questions like where i am going, who with, is it a boy or girl, friend or not friend which makes me now think otherwise.

Now she is a nice girl, which is exactlly the reason why i don't wanna hurt her in the long run. I do like her a lot, but there is still something missing, so i do not want her to get the wrong idea and think that i am cheating or what not whilst i date other girls. I had a talk with a friend today and apparently she said that i am her boyfriend and that i just don't know it. She also said it is better to be trueful than kind and that i should have a talk about what the relationship is first and then just tell her how i feel and what i want and if it is not possible then just end it.


What do you guys think? and is it possible to see a girl for this amount of time regularly and not be in a relationship?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes. Did it for 9 months before I got the ultimatum and moved on to my other plates. Kept it honest from the beginning though. The one thing that was annoying was that every time she started PMS'ing she would get all emotional, try to pressure me, and get herself ignored for a week or two. Outside of that, worked fine for me.
 

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hm i see, this would make it a lot easier Young Juan if i had a month or two to think it over. I can understand what your saying as well mustfirstregister, but is there any need to for me to remind her that i can't commit too quickly or can i just go on and assume she remembers it from the first time i said it to her. Because this would be quite an awkward conversation and will change things, if i do have this all wrong.
 

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DO NOT BRING IT UP!

I was in the exact same situation, except it was starting to bother me. Because I told her I didnt want to rush into anything. Brought it up, and i failed. I had control of the frame and was acting a but distant to keep the attraction, but then she started acting more distant, and it made me want her more and turned me into an AFC.

If she wants to she will bring it up. Although I feel for me, I missed my opportunity to ask the girl out, i think it is up to the girl to progress things. The problem is, some girls (like the one I was dating) cannot take the initiative and are always waiting for you to make a move. So its a dangerous game. But in your case, dont bring it up.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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