Am I handling this right?

[aix237]

recently i have been contacting a girl ive had a past with. other girls havent worked out for me so i decided to contact her cause i just feel like seeing her. we havent seen each other in about 2 months. when we were seeing each other some of my sh!t was left over her house like a couple of $100 dollars worth of sh!t, but i dont give a sh!t about that stuff though. We had a conversation that was light just about whats going on in life. I wanted to talk to her again I couldnt be hey im just calling you and wanting you to come over. I needed an excuse so i used my sh!t as a pawn (what else can i do) A convo about a week later i said at first to her
Me: "you can bring my stuff to me or send it it doesnt really matter.
Her: Ill do one or the other well see."
Me: Actually it would be cool if you brought it cause i want to see you"
Her: Ill try to make a free day (oh please lol) so I can.

I really didnt say anything after that to her. Should i have tried to set up an exact date or just sit back and if she does she does. shes the type of girl that takes her sweet old time to do anything. Unless something makes her upset shell call me pretty fast and come down right away. I feel if i was like well tell me a day i would look needy. I chose not to set an exact date or anything cause i dont want to look that needy. Should i give her a week or so or just never contact her again and see what she does?

 

[Kings_royalty]

couldnt be hey im just calling you and wanting you to come over. I needed an excuse so i used my sh!t as a pawn (what else can i do)

Why not? You would be surprised at what a girl will actually do if you approach it the right way. But besides that, you screwed up on all levels. Don't think she didn't see you using your stuff as an excuse to see her. If you wanted to see her, you should of come right out and invited her out for lunch, coffee, etc. Once she comes out, then you start acting in a way that will get her interest level back up. If you had her interested in you before, you can do it again.

Me: "you can bring my stuff to me or send it it doesnt really matter.
Her: Ill do one or the other well see."
Me: Actually it would be cool if you brought it cause i want to see you"
Her: Ill try to make a free day (oh please lol) so I can.


Weak bro, you totally contradicted yourself AND gave her control. In one sentence you said, 'it doesn't really matter', then you follow with 'actually it would be cool if you brought it cause i want to see you'? Bad, bad, bad...

I would of called her up, invited her out for lunch, then asked her to bring my stuff right before we hung up. This would of left her wondering what my intentions were.

 

[aix237]

its not a total contradiction. Cause in a way i was responding to what she said about ill bring it down if i go down there and if not ill mail it. so i said well actually (on second thought) it would be cool if you would bring down cause i want to see you. she knows whats up anyways. she knows i want to see her regardless thats why i contacted her again. this girl was my gf for almost 2 years we were living together so its not some random hook up and fvcked her for a couple of months.