"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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am i getting the runaround not shure help

Spp27

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Thanks In advance thanks for the help and advise.

So met this girl I work with. She seems realy nice. She work part time where we work. Never realy paid attension to her. One day whe jumps infront of me and say how do you like my hair infront of me and another co worker I said is realy nicesort of caught off gard. So I was thinking why is she asking me about her hair? Started talking to her more. To see whats going on here. We go for lunch all the time tighter. She comes and gets me to go and all. So I started talking to her more and more about her school other stuff . we start talking every time we work together. She likes similar stuff like I do. so I ask the other guy I work with he talks to her a lot does she have a boyfriend he says no at that time. Was still contemplation to ask her out. Then find out shes going on dates with other guys. Sometimes 2 different guys at same time she being a player I gess. Finaly my friend tells me that she broke up with the other guy. Dident like him inconcceded. So I get ticked to moves from a customer so I ask er if she wants to go. She say yes but we should go with the other guy we work with. She cances 2 times first time she says she has school. Gives me a day and all when we are going. So I think she for real. Second time she say her best friend dad died she has to go to funeral. Leave work early and all get someone to pick her up.look legit so does the other guy that I work with says. So I try to resceule day she say she has to do things on the days I ask her to go so I leave it alone. She say we will go nex time with no day. She going on holidays for a week. She comes back still taks to me like always even buys me lunch a couple times. So I get the other guy to bring it up again to her are we going. She comes up to me separaly after telling him tell me day and everythin. She seems pretty sturn on the day and everything..
This is where we are at at this point.
Do you guys think this girl has any interest in me or just playing me along?
I always help her out fixing stuff for her at work do you think she is using me?
Should I go to this third attempt. Don’t have her number or anything. Should I just bailon this alltoghter
Or play along and see where it goes?


i dont get much attension from most girls do have any girl beatting down my door to go out with them. not shure what to do dont have much of a out life.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pyros

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my conclusion:

she's not interested but likes to play with your mind. Stop asking her out.

Only agree to go on a date the two of you if she suggests it, if not, she can go to hell.
 

Çharismo

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First off never pursue women you work with but it seems that you aren't attracting her but rather in the friend zone. If you don't get a lot of attention from women than there is a chance this chick doesn't find you as a threat nor attractive. The first thing you need to do is not pursue this because you are working with the same chick and slowly limit your contact. She doesn't like you neither will you ever get in her pants. Don't add her on facebook or any other social media website either.

Consider this a lost cause and move on. Find other women to talk to. :trouble:
 

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You guys sound right. I just don't understand why she keeps talking to me so much and buying me lunch and stuff is she just using me to help her on her own stuff. Like fixing here stuff for free.

And what should I do know they are expecting me to go out with the other guy at work this week ?
 

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They are expecting me this girl and the other guy I work with and his girlfriend this week as a group the 4 of us should I just cancel what should I say.
When I asked her out she said to go with the guy and his girlfriend and her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She has zero romantic interest in you but loves how all she has to do is talk to you to get you fussing after her and orbiting, boosting her self esteem.
Give her one more chance for the movie and then pull back. Keep it light and fun at work, and don't get bogged down in long conversations with her.
If she bails on the movie again, just take some other girl or whatever. DO NOT take her. You're a man goddammit and you do what you want to do.
That includes not waiting around for some low-interest attention wh0re to dictate when you can go see a movie.
One day she'll ask: "Hey, have you still got those movie tickets? Let's go tonight."
Then you say coolly and calmly: "Nah, I took someone else. That movie is awesome, you should check it out."
If you keep going on your current path, don't be surprised if she asks: "Hey, do you still have those movie tickets? Can I have them? There's this guy I want to take."
You really need to work on your game too. All this whispering with the other guy about "does she like me?" is schoolyard bullsht.
Read the DJ Bible, get some confidence and pursue other women who would move Heaven and Earth to see a movie with you.
 

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So should I even bother going out with her and the guy and his girlfriend or is it all just a waste of my time?
 

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You guys were right just Gona ignore her from now on and I realy don't care anymore. If she asks me to do anything just go a say I'm bussy.
It just realy sucks don't realy have any girls that realy talk to me or took interest in my life like she would always ask.
Don't realy get out much to meet any girls so back to nothing I gess.
 
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