"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Am I ever going to figure her out?

Jaun_Don

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She always flirts with me and it pisses me off now, as she told me didn't have feelings for me ages ago, she gets annoyed about little things I say, she switches off when i talk about other girls or she will pick things out about them, she obvioulsy enjoys my company because we spend a lot of time together, she laughs a lot around me and gives me some strange looks sometimes but also some 'what do you think?' looks, she also gets flustered when I pay more attention to her friends than her, I have been through some odd and strange behaviour with this girl, yet a part of me still really wants her when another part is over actually giving a **** if she likes me or not?...

I think tommorow might be somewhat of a test I am taking this very cute (and a little younger than me) girl to a show if she gets jealous what am I to think?.

Never have I been more fascinated and frustrated by a girl but I don't let it show anymore, ignoring her only gives her power and having an argument proves that she knows that she is getting to you.

Oddly she has taught me things about myself and she had told me the same thing.

any thoughts?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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She enjoys pushing your buttons and you're falling for it. Concentrate your efforts elsewhere.
 

Jaun_Don

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
She enjoys pushing your buttons and you're falling for it. Concentrate your efforts elsewhere.
well the worst thing is we live together (not together of course but in the same house).

Thanks for the advice, it seems odd that she would do this don't you think?, there is an incredible amount to tell but I (and I am old enough to know) sense that she does like me, but just won't admit it.
 

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Originally posted by Jaun_Don
well the worst thing is we live together (not together of course but in the same house).

Thanks for the advice, it seems odd that she would do this don't you think?, there is an incredible amount to tell but I (and I am old enough to know) sense that she does like me, but just won't admit it. I'm not coming onto her or anything I just observe the way she acts around me.
 
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