Am I doing something wrong?

[andybonse]

Hey guys,

I have been with my gf 4 months and everything is great bar from the sex. I have to initiate most times, and it is a few times per week, sometimes once a week but sometimes can be none(but she was having sleeping troubles).

It seems hard to pleasure her, she said shes not loud but sometimes make her moan a little, but the thing is I cant seem to make her orgasm, I can make her *** but thats it.

I try, come here motion with fingers on the g spot, then she said she needs a wee or that it will hurt. I play with her **** for a few minutes maybe less and she says it feels funny and laughs and said its too sensitive now...wtf? She doesnt like being licked down there, how on earth can I make her orgasm or pleasure her lol its really getting to me.

How can I also increase sexual frequency and her initiate it, I think she has a few times in the past but not compared to what I have.

When penetrating I go quite fast and hard and she likes it, but just cant seem to do what I need to!

I tried speaking to her also, she doesnt know whats wrong with her etc.



Ive not had trouble in the past.........

 

[christoff522]

Hey guys,

I have been with my gf 4 months and everything is great bar from the sex. I have to initiate most times, and it is a few times per week, sometimes once a week but sometimes can be none(but she was having sleeping troubles).

It seems hard to pleasure her, she said shes not loud but sometimes make her moan a little, but the thing is I cant seem to make her orgasm, I can make her *** but thats it.

I try, come here motion with fingers on the g spot, then she said she needs a wee or that it will hurt. I play with her **** for a few minutes maybe less and she says it feels funny and laughs and said its too sensitive now...wtf? She doesnt like being licked down there, how on earth can I make her orgasm or pleasure her lol its really getting to me.

How can I also increase sexual frequency and her initiate it, I think she has a few times in the past but not compared to what I have.

When penetrating I go quite fast and hard and she likes it, but just cant seem to do what I need to!

I tried speaking to her also, she doesnt know whats wrong with her etc.



Ive not had trouble in the past.........

You're trying WAY too hard. Try reading "no more mr nice guy". You can get it for kindle if you have one. trust me when i say you really really really need to read it.

One thing that's wrong here is you're trying to please her, Sex needs to be a mutual thing, it can't just be "I want to have sex with you, I want you to feel pleasure, feel pleasure now".

The reason that she doesn't want sex, is because she feels completely under the spotlight, immense amounts of pressure to please you. If you continue as you are, she's going to leave, simple as that.

Stop what you're doing, stop trying to be so beta (i mean that in the nicest way possible), just hold her hand, give her a kiss, tell her you want to work on yourself AND FOR GOODNESS SAKE READ THAT BOOK.

 

[andybonse]

Which author? Dr Robert A glover?

thanks man

 

[Cremasta]

Only 4 months in and you've got sex problems? Simple answer...

You're not compatible.

When a girl is really into you, you'll still be able to make her scream and wet the bed after 10 years together.