Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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am i doign something wrong?

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There's this HB7 that I met through some friends (we went out on group activities etc).

I'm always laid back and relaxed, don't call her much, just out to have fun. She was giving me lots of IOIs after a couple of weeks. She touches me a lot, and leans in to me, asks me out to a few movies one on one. So I step it up a tiny bit. I don't say anything, but during our one on one meetings. I do things like putting my arm around her when we walk to and from the car, etc. She doesn't lean in back or anything, but she doesn't pull away either.

I thought she might be just shy, so I decided to take the lead a little bit more. I started calling her up instead of her calling me all the time. Not calling her everyday or anything, but I call her sometimes, maybe around once per 3 days and ask her out. She's turned me down like the past 3 times (her parents are in town and she wants to spend time with them, which might be a real reason BUT the last time we went out her parents are still around.) And she doesn't lean into me or touch me very much anymore.

I have no idea if i'm reading too much into this or have i slipped back into AFC mode without knowing it?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It seems like you're making it too easy for her. Although you didn't play it totally wrong, since she took the initiative first.

I'm in a very similar predicament with a girl who wants me to come to her dorm one second, and the next second she will not even return my phone calls.

You know how I got her to return every single one of my phone calls? I started dating other girls and I let her know about it (indirectly). Don't be too obvious about letting her know, cause thats when she'll just think you're being corny.

Girls want something they have to work for. It doesn't seem like you've made her work for you yet.
 

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WC2 said:
It seems like you're making it too easy for her. Although you didn't play it totally wrong, since she took the initiative first.

I'm in a very similar predicament with a girl who wants me to come to her dorm one second, and the next second she will not even return my phone calls.

You know how I got her to return every single one of my phone calls? I started dating other girls and I let her know about it (indirectly). Don't be too obvious about letting her know, cause thats when she'll just think you're being corny.

Girls want something they have to work for. It doesn't seem like you've made her work for you yet.
Two thumbs up, you nailed it!

If she's gonna turn you down cuz her parents are in town. Don't give her the opportunity to turn you down again. You can tell her to give you a ring when she's free (when her parents are out of town).
 
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