Im not really sure how i look in other peoples eyes. I am really quiet in school, smile rarely and over all im an ok student. All i notice is that a lot of people look at me, not really sure if in a good or a bad way. I really cant tell if im good looking or but ugly because i seem to be a bit of both. Also very few people approach me and every time they do i get the feeling they feel sorry for me because im so quiet. It might be all in my head but it just seems that people find me weird. Anyone else experiencing this? Im ok with being a loner but the strange behavior of people towards me makes me feel like im very different. It also ****s up my confidence so i find it hard to talk to a girl im interested in.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Am i different?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
NotaGoatLover
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....how about getting some friends?.....
It's not healthy to not be social.....
It's not healthy to not be social.....
its not too easy to make friends for me. I always feel that people will screw me over and that they are not truly a friend. Thats why i know people in school but i dont hang out with them. I guess i just have a mental/social problem.
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Hey, I know how you're feeling. Making friends is not easy for me as well - people just aren't too accepting in high school. Most seem reluctant to make friends with you.
Try joining teams - that brings people closer together. Or clubs. Basically any place where socializing is a must. It helps.
Try joining teams - that brings people closer together. Or clubs. Basically any place where socializing is a must. It helps.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TonyTheTigerOI
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Hey... I understand what youre going thru. Ive known a lot of kids like you. From what I gather - you are quiet, but in a very non-threatening way, so people take a little notice and come and talk to you sometimes.
TonyTheTigerOI or AJGOI on AIM. Use it.
TonyTheTigerOI or AJGOI on AIM. Use it.
DonCharlie24
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totally bro, man in highschool, theres a group for everybody, the preps, the "gangsta's", the goths, the punks, so on and so forth, just find ur group, but personally the best one to be in, is all of them, i hang out with them all, its a good way to stay connected, besides, no one girls is the same, so it kinda works out
skinnydart
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Yeah, post a pic (ones that weren't taken with a cell phone are always nice)
I cant post a pic because i dont really have any way to do it. I dont own a cell phone because i dont need one even though you are expected to own one in hs today. For me, standing out has never been to difficult but when i was younger i wanted to fit in. As i got older i realised i never really fit into any groups so i stared going my own way. My clothing is pretty much average meaning im never flashy but im not a bum eather. The only things clothing wise that set me apart are my addidas soccer classics and my ferrari formula 1 hat i got durring a race last year. I guess the hat draws some attention since no one else in school has the same sort of thing. Im originally from europe so i look a little different than the average american. Other than that i really cant judge weather or not im attractive because its hard for me to tell weather peoples reactions are good or bad. I mean they eather stare because im ugly or because im cute. For the most part i like to observe people in my class, and im so quiet i get labeled as eather a mute or some dumb kid in a corner. The fact is i may not be the smartest kid in school but overall i think im a lot more mature than most of the people in school. I dont laugh at stupid gay jokes or jokes centered towards substitutes so i guess most people see me as a cold person.
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I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
BoDyFrICtioN
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I dont hav many m8s cos i find most people r to happy and babyish and laugh at the stupidest things. I also dont really chat 2 ne1 but im quite intimidating so if ne1 FuX wit me they no ill kill em. Dont no if that really helps at all..
check_mate_kid_uk
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i dont have many good freinds just 2 and the rest are just people i talk to in school. I feel i could put more effort in to make freinds but that there is know one that would really want to be good freinds with me other then the few who im already good freinds with. This is with guys, funnily enough with girls i have the feeling theres a lot i can easily talk to and be good freinds with!
every single post you make is about yourself.Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
i dont have many good freinds just 2 and the rest are just people i talk to in school. I feel i could put more effort in to make freinds but that there is know one that would really want to be good freinds with me other then the few who im already good freinds with. This is with guys, funnily enough with girls i have the feeling theres a lot i can easily talk to and be good freinds with!