"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Am I "different" from the norm?

BannedGod

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I started asking myself this question recently... The way I tend to interact with my friends is mostly in group. I will very rarely hang out with just one friend (not because I'm uncomfortable or anything), except maybe one or two of my male friends, and it can happen more with my female friends.

The only exception is my closest buddy, it does happen, but then again not that frequently...

I'm curious to know, is it just me that doesn't really do solo 1v1 with friends, or is this more the norm for guys and it's more a chick's thing (e.g.: Go out for drinks two girls together)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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PapiChulo

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cause you arent very intimate with any of them
 

BannedGod

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PapiChulo said:
cause you arent very intimate with any of them
It actually makes a lot of sense now that I think about it for a few seconds... I just don't know if it's a bad thing or not. I've never been the kind of person to become intimate with others, I tend to be more of a solitary when it comes to certain aspects of my life... Don't know if this kind of behavior can push away my friends in the long run.
 

PapiChulo

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Outgoing people tend to have a lot superficial relationships with MANY other people, but sometimes have trouble connecting to one particular person. That as well may be the case.
Personally, I am both Introvert and Extrovert (learned to be more social), and do well in any situation but rather prefer to keep a rather small circle of friends whom I trust and share deeper experiences, thoughts. This by itself makes it harder to find the right person, and I would prefer to be in a larger company of people if there is no body around who I liked.

In a company of several people you can have more fun without getting too close. he he


I also enjoy my own company for certain things as well.
 

BannedGod

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PapiChulo said:
Outgoing people tend to have a lot superficial relationships with MANY other people, but sometimes have trouble connecting to one particular person. That as well may be the case.
Personally, I am both Introvert and Extrovert (learned to be more social), and do well in any situation but rather prefer to keep a rather small circle of friends whom I trust and share deeper experiences, thoughts. This by itself makes it harder to find the right person, and I would prefer to be in a larger company of people if there is no body around who I liked.

In a company of several people you can have more fun without getting too close. he he
Sounds good, I guess we kind of think alike... In the end I believe there is no right or wrong answer to my question, it depends on preferences and the type of personality. I am more introvert (extrovert by training as well), and I do have 2-3 close friends. Like you said it, probably because it's hard to find someone that you connect with more

Thanks a lot for your feedback, much appreciated!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It's Normal as a Man your gonna spend more time alone then with someone talking about the finer points in your life (like women do). Mainly because as a Man you have the power to create your future and if your busy pushing ahead in that field you will spend many many many hours alone working studying training etc.

Having a few male or female friends that you can open up to and share your feelings with is ok but remember never to expose to much as one day they will just stab you in the back when the time is right (learned this the hard way).

In my years spent at this site and actually practicing what I've learned, the one thing that is very clear is that women are the ones that sit around talking bit(hing and all the while trying to make as many friends as they can so they can cover up their biggest insecurity and that is being alone. While its guys like me that have to grab our balls step into the big world and make things happen most of the time alone.
 

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I'm just like you. Unless I'm with a buddy trying to pick up girls then why would I hang with just one guy. That's kind of fruity in my book.
 
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