am i dealing with an internet attention wh0re?

[big weezy]

i messaged some girl on facebook, she starts liking all my profile photos and comments on one of them.

my back and forth with her goes that shes living away from me about 4 hours and is coming end of next month to visit her friends.. and would love to meet for a date.. shes only here on holiday to work and then shes going back to her country to finish her studies..

then she goes on to tell me how mch shes in love with guys from my ethnic background and writes me this super long msg.. and then tells me how she is trying to be honest with me and that she is really bad with guys and relationships and that she runs away from guys cos she's afraid blah blah..and was in a relationship got hurt bad and doesn't want to feel that again.. same usual BS.

i suggest to her i come up to where she is this week for a coffee date, and she says no and that she rather just email as she knows she'll run away from the date as in cancel/not show up.. i counter this by pretty much saying that im apprehensive that she's an attention wh0re and wasting my time and 1 of those girls who like to email but never meet up (for dating)..

she then goes on to tell me that it's not true and that she msg'd another guy from facebook for a month then they met up and now they're really close friends.. she then goes to say she only runs away from dates and gets scared. she tells me meeting me end of next month when she comes is best. and that shes afraid and to just trust her. (i sense her trying to take control of the frame and me refusing not letting her, it sounds like such rubbish..i duno if shes afraid of meeting a stranger, shes done it before, or this bs about getting hurt)

she leaves me her number in that last msg without me asking for it.

i send her a reply that that's what i meant about running away from dating. and that meeting as 'friends' is different. i think i caved in by saying that when she comes down next month is fine.. (i feel like im letting her control the frame now) so im awaiting reply now.

anyway screw this, im gona go out and game other girls and if she shows up she shows up. im not getting oneitis over this girl just cos shes hot and really into guys of my nationality.. at the end of the day she loves attention, and must have given me her number to bait me into contacting her so she can have more attention.

she's all alone up there where she's working knows nobody just doing it for the money.. some guy must be giving her d1ck.. and it isn't me.

do u guys think she's just an attention wh0re?

 

[PapiChulo]

She might be both: AW and BPD. Something is not right in that head of hers. Notice how she makes advances on you though facebook like a typical online AW and offers her phone number without you asking for it (knows she's got you). Let her come to you and see what happens, otherwise you might be wasting your time on her.

Another flag:

she's bored, probably spends most of the time in front of the computer.

 

[big weezy]

She might be both: AW and BPD. Something is not right in that head of hers. Notice how she makes advances on you though facebook like a typical online AW and offers her phone number without you asking for it (knows she's got you). Let her come to you and see what happens, otherwise you might be wasting your time on her.

Another flag:

she's bored, probably spends most of the time in front of the computer.

yes this is true.. she has no friends where she's working up north.. so spends all her free time in front of the computer.. i dont think it's that easy to make friends if you're new to a city tbh.

im def not getting into a long back and forth with her multiple msgs a day. i'll play it right send her 1 msg a day max and reply every other day sometimes so she knows she hasn't got me and is gona have to work harder for my affections.

 

[big weezy]

i see another red flag.. one of her msgs shes talking sh1t about how like i'm the only 2nd guy she's met.. yeah right.. and that all the other guys on her friends list are close friends.. bullsh1t.. i can even see on her profile pics shes replying to comments from random dudes from around the world telling her how hot she is and clearly she hasn't met any of them before.. so she's BS'ing me..

should i call her out for that BS she wrote to me about all her guy friends on her list being 'close' friends..?

or should i just keep quiet?

i feel like i should call her out for it that i know she's lying to me but at same time i dont wanna scare her off by acting jealous and insecure

i dont know if it's important to speak up about this when it;s the last msg she sent.. i was gona be like 'i dont believe for 1 sec that the guys on your friends list are your 'close' friends.. reason being on your profile pics u have guys commenting on your photos u never even met judging by what has been said.. so save the BS for someone else '

 

[PapiChulo]

Dont call her out- it usually backfires. Simply let her know that you know what she is doing.
Plus, the rest of the chumps and women will support her all the way on her behavior.
I find that the problem with these women is that they dont really understand what they are doing, nor feel guilty about leading people on.