"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Am I conceeded for complimenting myself everyday?

natedizzle

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I've had a big self esteem problem growing up so now I tell myself stuff like I'm a fun guy and I never make things awkward with anybody, and that I'm funny, just stuff like that but I'm scared that I'll just turn conceeded. If I will turn conceeded for that then what other things can I do to start developing self confidence? thanks
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sodbuster

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THAT little bit shouldn't turn you conceited. There is a line between self confident and thinking you are better than everyone else.
 

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natedizzle said:
If I will turn conceeded for that then what other things can I do to start developing self confidence? thanks
The fact that you are already aware of this, will help to keep your attitude grounded in your future success.

Feeling conceited is actually a good thing as long as it doesn't go to your head.
 

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Its like having pride in a way. I don't see it being a problem unless you become completely arrogant and big-headed. It is a turnoff when excessive. Confidence is when you know what you are and you dont have to validate yourself at the expense of other people i.e. putting them down in an arrogant way or looking to be complimented on everything.

For example, everybody brags how they speak 3 languages, and you speak 5 but never tell them about, and when they find out or see you use them it's a pleasant surprise.
Or you have a corvette and no one knows about. You just know you have a cool car.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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