Hey gang, I've blown a couple opportunities with the girls lately & and I need you help to figure out what went wrong. My theory is that I did not keep up the "pressure" or "pursuit" and did not act like a salivating puppy and so for some reason they started wondering about my feelings towards them. I dunno that's my theory. I wasn't "playing" them but I wasn't acting needy either. I'll call towards the end of the week and make quick convo and try to set up the date for the weekend. I do this for the first few dates. I don't call needlessly midweek just to chat, after all I barely know the person after a couple dates why act like I am "in love" and call them a lot? I mean that's what the date is for - to see each other and talk, right?
Do the girls want a lot of attention from you ie. acting wussy to see that they are being"wanted" in your eyes?
Anyhow here is the last mishap: she initiate contact with me online, we bounced a few emails for a week, she sent me one every day or so then she sent me her # without me asking for it. I called in a few days, chatted, set up a date. She seemed energetic on the date, then she hinted about wanting to see my place as we talked about it before so we went to my house and rented a movie to watch. Drank some wine & watched a movie while she snuggled up. I was massaging her up a bit but that's as far as she let me go that night
I tried for more but she said she "was not that drunk yet, may be later". Ended on a good note.
Anyhow week after that was Thanks Giving, I called her up once to see how she was doing, and kinda probe the waters for that weekend but she was sick. She was apologetic about being it. Next week I called her again and she was busy with work and again sounded very apologetic and wanted a raincheck though. OK so I called her last Friday & Saturday in an attempt to reach her - well she called me back at 6PM on Saturday saying she was busy cleaning the house all day?! So I told her that I called her to see if she wanted to go out for dinner tonight but since it's already past 6PM it's too late for that. I said it in a joking mood and finished off that it's not too late however to go for some drinks if she was up for that. Well the cell phone dropped the call and that was it, she wouldn't answer again. WTF?
I only met her once therefore I think I was doing the right thing by calling her Thur or Friday to setup a date for Satuday. I'd chat for ~ 10 minutes and get to the point. I wouldn't call her midweek just to chat - is that the problem? Did she want me to call and spend hours talking on the weeks that we were not able to meet to show my affection for her? Help?!
Do the girls want a lot of attention from you ie. acting wussy to see that they are being"wanted" in your eyes?
Anyhow here is the last mishap: she initiate contact with me online, we bounced a few emails for a week, she sent me one every day or so then she sent me her # without me asking for it. I called in a few days, chatted, set up a date. She seemed energetic on the date, then she hinted about wanting to see my place as we talked about it before so we went to my house and rented a movie to watch. Drank some wine & watched a movie while she snuggled up. I was massaging her up a bit but that's as far as she let me go that night
I tried for more but she said she "was not that drunk yet, may be later". Ended on a good note.Anyhow week after that was Thanks Giving, I called her up once to see how she was doing, and kinda probe the waters for that weekend but she was sick. She was apologetic about being it. Next week I called her again and she was busy with work and again sounded very apologetic and wanted a raincheck though. OK so I called her last Friday & Saturday in an attempt to reach her - well she called me back at 6PM on Saturday saying she was busy cleaning the house all day?! So I told her that I called her to see if she wanted to go out for dinner tonight but since it's already past 6PM it's too late for that. I said it in a joking mood and finished off that it's not too late however to go for some drinks if she was up for that. Well the cell phone dropped the call and that was it, she wouldn't answer again. WTF?
I only met her once therefore I think I was doing the right thing by calling her Thur or Friday to setup a date for Satuday. I'd chat for ~ 10 minutes and get to the point. I wouldn't call her midweek just to chat - is that the problem? Did she want me to call and spend hours talking on the weeks that we were not able to meet to show my affection for her? Help?!