DiegoMoreno
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I met this girl HB8 at a bar a couple of weeks ago, and she seemed into my friend and they left together sort of early together.
A couple of weeks later this girl messages me out of the blue, we have some light banter I ask her out, she declines. I offer to see her for coffee as friends, (my play here is to maybe extend my social network and maybe meet people through her and I mentally brush her off and expect nothing). She accepts, we have coffee but I'm not able to initiate anything romantic and she whines about her ex bf (I want to run away at this point), im able to steer the conversation away from the ex, make her laugh. After 3 hours, I call it quits and end the night, she asks me if I'm doing anything and I say I have to go to sleep cause I have to be up in the morning. When we get up, i get from her body language that she doesn't want a hug or anything, so I leave.
I pretty much gave up on her and figured I should work on someone else. I go no contact with her.
I met up with my buddy that went with her the night we met, (I've known him for 13 years and we are fairly close). After a couple of drinks, I ask him what happened, cause I assumed he pumped and dumped her. He tells me that they hung out for coffee and he could have slept with her but he botched it when he said he wanted to be friends with benefits. We compared texts and determined she started messaging me after he dropped her.
She messages me again asking me for coffee, I agreed but set it for a week later because I'm legitimately busy. I'm going to go see her in a couple of days.
So my question is, am I wasting my time with this girl?
I'm not sure if she is interested in me, just **** testing me, or just trying to get me to be an orbiter?
A couple of weeks later this girl messages me out of the blue, we have some light banter I ask her out, she declines. I offer to see her for coffee as friends, (my play here is to maybe extend my social network and maybe meet people through her and I mentally brush her off and expect nothing). She accepts, we have coffee but I'm not able to initiate anything romantic and she whines about her ex bf (I want to run away at this point), im able to steer the conversation away from the ex, make her laugh. After 3 hours, I call it quits and end the night, she asks me if I'm doing anything and I say I have to go to sleep cause I have to be up in the morning. When we get up, i get from her body language that she doesn't want a hug or anything, so I leave.
I pretty much gave up on her and figured I should work on someone else. I go no contact with her.
I met up with my buddy that went with her the night we met, (I've known him for 13 years and we are fairly close). After a couple of drinks, I ask him what happened, cause I assumed he pumped and dumped her. He tells me that they hung out for coffee and he could have slept with her but he botched it when he said he wanted to be friends with benefits. We compared texts and determined she started messaging me after he dropped her.
She messages me again asking me for coffee, I agreed but set it for a week later because I'm legitimately busy. I'm going to go see her in a couple of days.
So my question is, am I wasting my time with this girl?
I'm not sure if she is interested in me, just **** testing me, or just trying to get me to be an orbiter?
