am i being used. should i make a move in theatre

[joe45]

how can you tell if a girl ur dating or is going out with is interested in you, or just going out wiht you just for the free dinner, movie,trips, gifts...... and....etc. is their some clues or how can you tell.
i just met her off net and she agree to go out wiht me.

we will go to movie today, we met before for coffee date for 1 hr, should i go for a kiss, or make a move in the theatre. heheheh haha. what are somethings i can do to make her now i am interested in her sexually and something more than just friends. whjat can i say or do to show her this


can you ask your frineds or ppl at work if you don't now this answer

 

[Lexington]

There is no way to tell for sure by just looking at a girl unless she's throwing herself all over you. But a lot of girls are a lot more shy than that so it's up to you as the man to escalate. I would read the fact that she is going on these dates with you as a sign of interest.

Basically, if you've established a good rapport and you're joking around and having fun with her, it is the right time to make a move. Don't try to find the perfect moment because the truth is there is no such thing. Maybe after you two share a laugh or something, just look her in the eye and go for it.

You may get rejected on your first attempt but that doesn't necessarily mean a no. You might have to build some more comfort. If you get rejected on the second try, it's time to think about moving on.

It's better to find out sooner rather than later whether the girl just wants to be friends. It saves you time and energy.

Try to make sure that you make it clear you don't just want to be friends.

 

[joe45]

yes i have, but i am a late bloomer , we are both in our mid 20`s. i haven;t dated many girls or at all. so it is new to me. don;t ask why, i guess just shyness and strict parenting growing up . very strict parenting

 

[joe45]

There is no way to tell for sure by just looking at a girl unless she's throwing herself all over you. But a lot of girls are a lot more shy than that so it's up to you as the man to escalate. I would read the fact that she is going on these dates with you as a sign of interest.

Basically, if you've established a good rapport and you're joking around and having fun with her, it is the right time to make a move. Don't try to find the perfect moment because the truth is there is no such thing. Maybe after you two share a laugh or something, just look her in the eye and go for it.

You may get rejected on your first attempt but that doesn't necessarily mean a no. You might have to build some more comfort. If you get rejected on the second try, it's time to think about moving on.

It's better to find out sooner rather than later whether the girl just wants to be friends. It saves you time and energy.

Try to make sure that you make it clear you don't just want to be friends.

how do you make that clear.
you mean just tell her . hey i am interested in you as more than friends and i want to date you. like directly like that

 

[Lexington]

how do you make that clear.
you mean just tell her . hey i am interested in you as more than friends and i want to date you. like directly like that

No, it's usually a bad idea to be direct. But treat her like you would a girlfriend, not how you would a friend.

For example, plain friends usually don't always touch each other. So make sure you keep escalating the kino. First it can start with light contact, but keep escalating what you do. By doing this, you are communicating to her that you're not interested in being platonic friends.

Flirt with her and jokingly bust her balls about everything.

Basically, just make sure that you present yourself as boyfriend material and not friend material.

Oh, and don't wait too long to go in for the kiss close. You have to clearly demonstrate romantic interest quite early on or otherwise you will be placed in the friend zone.

 

[Lexington]

Oh and I find that the easiest way to naturally do all these things is to just put yourself in a sexual state of mind. Embrace your nature as a man, which is to be attracted to women. A lot of guys suppress their sexual urges and try to hide them.

I'm not saying drop your pants in the middle of the movie theater or anything. But if you're turned on and in a sexual state, you'll naturally communicate it and she will subconsciously pickup on it.

A lot of AFCs have feelings of guilt for having sexual urges for a girl and they try very hard to suppress them. In so doing, they communicate that they are only interested in friends. Then they wonder why they always get friend zoned. Trust me, I speak from personal experience on this matter.