Am I being strung along

[Pandora]

Went out with a girl on 2 dates. The dates were about 2 months apart because i have been out of town. In between that time she has been calling me every other day and texting me alot. I have been calling her also ( i know, i know, im breaking some DJ rule lol). I try to kiss close her on the first date and she knows its coming and runs out of the car. I say ok, i will try again the next date. Maybe she was nervous. I try again at the end of second date and i get no indication of her wanting to make out so i stop. I drop her off. That night i get a text saying she had fun and thanking me for the date.

So i next her and stop calling her. I stop answering her texts. She still calls me and its been a couple days now. I don't pick up. My thing is i can usually tell if i am wasting my time. But this one is hard to call. I am not trying to be a sucker that pays for her food, but sometimes its hard to tell if you are nexting too soon. My gut tells me she is not interested in me but that she likes my attention. Need advice. I know this is a basic DJ question but i cant call this one lol.

A few years ago if a girl didn't like you she would not even call or agree to multiple dates. Now these chicks have so many options that they can like you but decide that they are waiting for something better. Or they may not be sexually attracted to you but they like your personality so they string you along. Im like dont call me if your not tryin to ***k.

 

[expos]

OK......

1. She's being a prude. She should have made out with you after the second date. I think back to when I'd make out with random girls at parties and I did nothing to deserve it. Yes, different circumstance with you...but still....

2. She could be using you to make another guy jealous...or not. You don't know. But how would you feel about being her second option? You should be her first option.

3. Going against the rules here....but you should make her wait another day to keep her on edge and then contact her and secure another date. If there is no kiss or any type of action on this date than DITCH HER. Delete her number. Three strikes and she's out. No exceptions!

 

[Pandora]

Expos i think you are right man. Ima give it one more chance. Then the number is getting deleted. This chick has guys blowing up her phone dude. She shows me texts of guys kissing her a**. And she claims she has been "hurt" before so now she has her "guard" up. Typical chick logic. Its like im going to play hard to get from now on because I want to see if he likes me. Hard to get for a female is the worst dating strategy ever. Its the worst strategy if they want a self respecting guy.

Funny thing is, that with some guys she gives it up quick. She told me that if she really likes a guy she doesnt get physical with him for a very long time. She said the guys that she doesn't like she f***s right away because she sees no future in it. I told her that is ridiculous. To me that just sounds like she is rationalizing giving it up easy to the bad boy that arouses her, and making the provider long term beta work for it......what do yall think

 

[the_untold_history]

she tells you she screws other guys but she won't screw you or even make out with you? call her bluff. Tell her you don't care about that. Escalate on her and if she plays these silly teases on you then get rid of her.