am i being completely clueless?

[pete101]

my other thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1613074&posted=1#post1613074

and

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=165395

i understand i've missed the point, but heres the story now, i see her today eating outside/studying, im with my friend and i wave at her and say hey then go into a shop next door to get food. i dont go sit with her, i sit in her line of sight though while im talking to my friend.

she proceeds to face the other way round (there is a sofa on the other side of the table that was not free earlier) so now she isnt facing me.

after i finsh eating i go past her and say hey, then introduce my buddy to her, my buddy tells her he needs to go so im there left with her, she invites me to sit with her. i say 'do u want me to sit with u?'

then i proceed to try to run game, however i had just finished going to the gym so i probably didnt smell the best at the time with all the previous swearing earlier.

this is the weird part. i confront her unsubtley about why she didnt reply to me.. i say 'so i sent u a text on thursday..' she pretends she doesnt know what im talking about, so i press the issue. then she goes.. 'oh' playing dumb, and said 'oh i had no money left' so then i go.. 'so..u have money now how come u didnt just message me the next day when u did?' she goes 'i dont know.. hehe' i couldnt really press anymore after that so i left it, and she tried to change subject.

i eventually came on to the topic of 'so when are me and u going to meet up again then?' she goes 'anytime' i was taken a back by this, then i proceed to not make the same mistake of looking available by telling her i was busy the night before when we were originally were suppose to be meeting, and asked her what she was doing tonight, she said she was seeing a friend later then studying. she asked me what i was doing, i said i was seeing a friend too but i was too specific so she knew it was a guy friend.

i then tell her 'lets meet up tomorrow then, i know its a monday but im sure im much more interesting than studying..' she goes 'ok' i give her the time of 8pm. she agrees.


she didnt appear rattled but i never made eye contact with her or look at her at the time i just talked to my friend.

now in conclusion, is this girl really p1ssing me about but just isnt confrontational and is going to cancel tomorrow?
she kept kino'ing me during our talk today i even looked into her eyes and her eyes kept moving from side to side and kept generally moving like she was excited.

i dont think she wanted to get rid of me cos she thought i'd get jealous with this guy around, i think she didnt want him to know i was around and tried to be clever by changing to make it seem she wasnt on a date.

these 2 were studying later but it seemed as if maybe she was interested in him, and so is he, but it wasnt a date, but it was a study date.

he was doing quite well cos judging from the body language, he was leaning back relaxed and she was fully turned towards him like she was really into what he was saying etc.

i have to admit i've been outgunned.

she is in her right to play the field and date different guys at the beginning, but do u think her level of disrespect for me in how shes conducted herself is a cause of low interest and a non confrontational personality?

its my fault she has low interest cos i'd be all suave then be afc, its no wonder she has up and down interest, is she in her rights to behave the way she is rather than just being a b1tch?

i went past them at 1 point and waved at her and said hey. she smiled and waved but i feel threatened.

i feel as if i cant be surprised she lost interest given my afc behaviour being too available desperate etc, that should i give her the benefit of the doubt?

if shes lost interest thats not her fault, its mine for not bringing my A game. can i really let her be like this towards me if i see her tomorrow?

im thinking of telling her 'i dont like u as much as i did when we first met.. some of your behaviour is a bit peculiar..hmm..'

 

[pete101]

really i should split now its been agreed, and this is what she was expecting.. and this is where the story gets messed up. cos she thought i was going to leave after this agreement, i didnt. i stuck around carried on talking to her i knew something wasnt right with her cos she was relatively well dressed/provocative with her outfit that it was suspicious.

she told me about 20mins into convo after that she needed to go change and that she'd be back in literally 2mins and asked me to look after her stuff.

the girl takes ages, like 10mins or so to come back down, i made a joke prior saying 'oh so you're going to get changed for me' she told me she wanted to change into sweatpants etc cos it was more comfortable for lying on the couch outside this cafe we were at.

this is where it got weird, she was texting while talking to me, so not giving me full attention ididnt think anything at the time but when she came back she was looking like she was about to go to the gym, she was wearing all black, i reckon shes insecure about her figure.

i compliment her on her attire. but she asks me 'you're still here?' i go.. 'huh? well obviously u told me to look after your stuff.. what did u expect? im not going to just up and leave'

she gives me some half a$$sed response which i cant remember but this is when i started to get confused, she asked me what i was doing, as in what i was doing while she was gone, i pointed towards my other friend on another table who was with some friends and was talking to them,

then she proceeds to tell me some BS story or ask me about some book or something and then tells me shes going to get some tea and then in 2-3 mins start writing an essay.. in other words hint hint go.

the thing is i was wondering why she took so long to change.

you know what happened? this friend she was going to meet outside this cafe i think was a half date or a guy shes interested in, and i was scuppering her plans by sticking around.

i was thinking, 'well why is she trying to get rid of me or pretending to study?' i left something on the couch and went back to get it, the guy wasnt there yet but she brought 2 cups of tea which made me suspicious, she asked me what i was doing and i told her i lost something. she seemed nervous.

this is a pretty public place so shes pretty silly having a coffee/study date with a guy out in the open in a very popular place on campus where people go to get food etc and generally hang out.

if i had been smarter i should have told her i was sticking around when she tried to get rid of me cos my other friend was coming anyway, but i didnt, so i left.

when i did return she was there with the guy, i only knew this cos my friend told me, and i came over to talk to him but as i was passing through i didnt acknowledge her, and if she noticed this then she probably thinks im jealous or i dont know.

 

[kokane]

You are basically an afc of A category dude. Stop analysing- no over-analysing over this one girl. Dont you have any sense of respect. Listen to me. Move on. Period.