"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Kailex said:
When she suggested a restaurant, you should have said: I don't do dinner on first dates, sorry.

Do that from now on.
NO DINNER DATES.

If she doesn't want to do something YOU want to do... PASS.

And second... we already know she's nexted.

But do know that she didn't forget, it's just obviously zero interest.
Whatever, her loss.

Hell, call her tomorrow and tell her you'll pick her up and then delete all her info and do something else instead.

yeah i didnt buy the whole oh i forgot speech either. so are you saying call her tomorrow and tell her ill pick her up at a certain time and then not showup?lol
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you are afriad to be stood up, have a back up plan that in the town where the restarant. That way, if your stood up, your night is not ruined. Either way she stilled CALLED you to make plans so dont over think it just yet.
 

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Robert28 said:
yeah i didnt buy the whole oh i forgot speech either. so are you saying call her tomorrow and tell her ill pick her up at a certain time and then not showup?lol
I normally don't advocate that kind of stuff (I'm on a vengeful kinda day) because it's "stooping to their level" but if you truly don't care... why not.

Maybe on the off chance she actually says "Yes", she'll get all dressed up and have to wait for no one to show up.

And if she calls asking why you didn't show up and you feel like answering:

"Oh, I forgot all about tonight."
 

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Rober28 said:
if she were any kin to you, i would hope she would be more honest and have more respect for people's time and feelings. did you not read ANY of my other posts about her conduct thus far? if not i suggest you take a look at what i wrote before you go accusing me of being uncertain. i only called her once to reschedule, turns out she totally "forgot" about our date tonight. she wants to do it tomorrow, but she will never hear from me again. shes the one who blocked me and got her phone cut off, i didnt do it. if im uncertain then shes a headcase.
This was after your first schedule...
Robert28 said:
i call her the day we're supposed to meet to see if we can change it from 7 to 7:30 her phones been disconnected
Then this
Robert28 said:
UPDATE:UPDATE: i just called her to see if we could reschedule and guess what? she forgot we were supposed to be going out tonight!
 

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amoka said:
This was after your first schedule...


Then this

well at least i never "forgot" about our date. nor had my phone cut off. nor blocked anyone i'm supposedly "so looking forward to meeting". me pushing a date back 30 min is no big deal. yeah i called to reschedule today but you know what? she forgot about the date anyways so i would have been blown off no matter had i kept our original time or not.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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