Am I a jerk?

[T-Roy]

I just had my girlfriend over. She's from Japan and me and her have been getting along great. So we were watching a movie(Cats eye) and we started making out at one point. We've done this lots of times before and she has been happy before. But today it got a little heavier. It was the first time I ever touched her between the legs.

At first it was just an accident, I was kissing her neck, and nibbling her ear lobe.(Which she liked.) Then I reached down and I grabbed her butt. I did this before and she got kind of excited when I did it last time. (We were outside at the bottom of a street and she is normally pretty shy. But we were rolling around in the grass and all that. It was cool. She liked it too.) But when I was doing that my arm brushed on her place, and she gasped and pushed towards my arm.

So I lightly brushed over her jeans again and she liked it. Then after while she was panting pretty hard and I slid my hand into her pants. Not underneath the panties or anything though. Just on top. I started rubbing there and she opened her legs wider and we kept going. Then when she was getting really into it she put her arm on mine and slowly pulled it out but then we kept making out.

But afterwards she started crying... I held her and I had no idea what happened. Then after awhile she said she wanted to go to the home that she was staying at. After that I got her jacket and walked her to the door.

Am I a jerk? I feel really terrible and I have no idea what happened.

 

[achtungiono]

From the information, no you're not.

This girl seems weird to me, i wouldn't meet her again, there are loads of others out there.

 

[Lexie]

Things like this happen, you're not a jerk unless she's explicitly told you before "hey, I don't want anything like this to happen". You were both caught up in the moment, and you weren't exactly the one pushing. Just talk to her about it if she wants to, and refrain from it in the future.

 

[T-Roy]

That's the problem. I don't really know how to word it. She can't speak English fluently yet. But I really care for her. I wish I could speak Japanese.

 

[kdnash82]

Japanese girls are very timid. They are all I've dated since I went to Japan in 2001. Most will simply lie there when having sex. They won't take control in the bedroom, EVER. My current girlfriend acts that way sometimes and it pisses me the hell off. I've explained it to her and she's starting to come around. No more just laying there.

Anyway, the reason I'm telling you this, is because you're going to have to take charge. Things seemed to be going well from what I read. The only problem is that you didn't escalate. She probably simply got tired of you doing the same thing over and over again.

Don't be afraid to take it to that next level. If she stops you, at least she knows that you're aren't afraid to go for what you want. I think in the end, she will respect you more for it.

Just my two cents.

 

[T-Roy]

Ok thanks. But she's 18 I'm 16. So we are just going to school together. I'm not planning on having any sex for a little while. Till I'm really in love. Also Kdnash82 she didn't move around much. I guess your right.(Which I might be with her. So I dunno... T_T)

By the way. Thanks everyone.

 

[commodore]

ur girl sounds ****ing loco

she's japanese right?

**** on her face, see if she cries then.

 

[T-Roy]

I like her so I don't think I'm going to do that. Thanks for the input though.