Am I a DJ?

[D97]

Hey.

I don't know what's happened, but after years of doing this, I finally seem to be doing something right.

Am I a DJ? Heres what has happened over the last couple of months:

-Over the last 6 weeks, I have been out for coffee with 6 girls.

-The girl at the coffee place knows me from everytime I bring a new girl there, and calls me the "player".

-On Valentines Day, for the first time in my life, I had a date.

-I met with a girl yesterday, and I am meeting one tonight.

-The last two girls I saw have both said "I am charming" and definitely "know how to talk to women".

-Girls have said I have confidence.

-I have overcome the fear of the approach tot he point where I can walk up to her, talk and close.

-On one night, I talked to 20 new girls.

-On a good night at a place I visit every week or so, I average about 10 to 15 approaches.

-I can now approach girls in groups, particularly when they're in pairs. Before I could only approach a girl if she was alone.

-In a nightclub, I leave with numbers, and dates. Before I used to sit in the corner.

-Recently, my friends have called me names like the "professional", "the pimp" and "casanova".

-I am having to not ring or contact girls who have given me their numbers, or options I don't want to see again.

-I used to go for anyone, now I am selective.

-A good night is when I get somewhere with a girl.

So what am I? What has happened? Right now, I have options. I can get more.

Am I a DJ?

 

[Royal Elite]

At this stage I would say you are at the Wolf level from what you posted. The levels are:
AFC 0
Dog 1
Wolf 2
Lion 3
Dragon 4(ultimate level)

check out the descriptions of them here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=68953

 

[Ojete]

At this stage I would say you are at the Wolf level from what you posted. The levels are:
AFC 0
Dog 1
Wolf 2
Lion 3
Dragon 4(ultimate level)

wow Royal Elite!!

you are taking this too seriously, seduction it is not a scientific thing man...

you should check out this great post by fingz: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=66486


D97, you can really answer that question yourself... for some ppl you will be a "Master DJ" or Lion dog, etc... yet others you will still be an ego-maniac AFC,

from my point of view, you are having a nice game

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by Ojete
wow Royal Elite!!

you are taking this too seriously, seduction it is not a scientific thing man...

you should check out this great post by fingz: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=66486


D97, you can really answer that question yourself... for some ppl you will be a "Master DJ" or Lion dog, etc... yet others you will still be an ego-maniac AFC,

from my point of view, you are having a nice game

Wheres the science that you are talking about? Levels and stages are part of almost everything in the world. You are a pro or semi pro baseball player. You are a white belt, brown, black belt in martial arts. If you dont know where you are in life you dont know if you are where you want to be. Some people dont like levels or catogories because it exposes where they are, but the truth is needed or every kid in martial arts would think they are a black belt homey.

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by Ojete
you should check out this great post by fingz: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=66486

That is a beautiful thread. I believe it also explains why there are so many people that this board has helped become DJ's who no longer post here; in particular The Double-Edged Sword of SoSuave.

D97, it sounds like you're well on your way to being a DJ. You've conquered your inability to talk to girls, and instead of having nobody - you have several options that you're working on, with more in the works. Keep up the good work... your mindset seems straight-on, too... Right now I have options... I can get more. If only others would follow in this example.

By the way, what's holding you back from chatting up the coffeeshop girl? If she's calling you "the player", there might be some interest there on her part... unless you've caught her spitting in your coffee after she says it...

 

[Ojete]

Wheres the science that you are talking about? Levels and stages are part of almost everything in the world. You are a pro or semi pro baseball player. You are a white belt, brown, black belt in martial arts. If you dont know where you are in life you dont know if you are where you want to be.

That's why i posted that link.

I understand your point, but in my opinion you are qualifying something that is not a sport or martial art. It is a basic human to human relationship, would you seriously qualify your interaction with your family in different cateogories or levels until you 'reach' to the top?

I wouldn't. If it is for sports like you say, obviolsy this is great. But in this area of seduction i guess that with saying "he's good" or "he's an AFC" or "a DJ", that's enough. We're humans and each one has different views of what is ideal, and that's the beauty of life.

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by Ojete
That's why i posted that link.

I understand your point, but in my opinion you are qualifying something that is not a sport or martial art. It is a basic human to human relationship, would you seriously qualify your interaction with your family in different cateogories or levels until you 'reach' to the top?

I wouldn't. If it is for sports like you say, obviolsy this is great. But in this area of seduction i guess that with saying "he's good" or "he's an AFC" or "a DJ", that's enough. We're humans and each one has different views of what is ideal, and that's the beauty of life.

Reality: If it was as simple as that for everyone this and 1000 other boards wouldnt exist. There have been rules on seduction from the bigging of time in almost every culture. There have been the rules of chivary, the karma sulture, every aspect of life has rules-those who can recognize them can master them those who cant are the punching bag of life.

 

[SamePendo]

The only thing missing in you is self confidence.

 

[Avatar]

Royal Elite, your a very intelligent person. I don't think I have disagreed with any post you've made yet.

And D97 great work man. Where ever you are on the DJ scale, I'm close behind and catching up fast!

 

[skeeloo]

Originally posted by Ojete
That's why i posted that link.

I understand your point, but in my opinion you are qualifying something that is not a sport or martial art. It is a basic human to human relationship, would you seriously qualify your interaction with your family in different cateogories or levels until you 'reach' to the top?

I wouldn't. If it is for sports like you say, obviolsy this is great. But in this area of seduction i guess that with saying "he's good" or "he's an AFC" or "a DJ", that's enough. We're humans and each one has different views of what is ideal, and that's the beauty of life.

i agree with this post,

even the best so called dj fail some times so lets not get carried away with this different levels of djism none will ever be perfect besides every dj has he's own method that works best for him that may not be the so called conventional dj method.

 

[alnite]

Originally posted by Royal Elite
Reality: If it was as simple as that for everyone this and 1000 other boards wouldnt exist. There have been rules on seduction from the bigging of time in almost every culture. There have been the rules of chivary, the karma sulture, every aspect of life has rules-those who can recognize them can master them those who cant are the punching bag of life.

Rules are there for newbies who has no clue what to do. Ever read an instruction book? Once you are a master, do you really think you need to follow the steps exactly as they describe it? No. You might think that step #3 can go before #1. Rules are there to be followed by newbies. Masters don't follow rules, they play along with them.

 

[MacDiddy]

Do you really care what we think???

 

[squirrels]

In the old days of Asian culture, martial artists only wore one belt their entire life. They never washed it.

The belt started out white. But as they trained outdoors, the belt would become dirty and soiled. The harder they trained and the more work they put in, the more they learned, and the darker their belts got. By the time they had a "black belt", it was an indicator of their dedication to and skill in the study of the martial arts.

As you practice your DJ technique and learn and take beatings and hone your skills, those around you will see the "color of your belt" change. This is not something you should worry about. Your goal here is not to be the grand-master DJ, but to learn as much as you can and interact with women as often as possible. The best grand-master is the one who is not only the best teacher, but the best student.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

No.

If you have to ask, try harder

 

[D97]

And...

There are two more I forgot:

-A couple of weeks ago I saw 2 girls on the same day, in the same place - but at different times.

-Girls now regularly call me. This one is recent.

From reflecting on it, and reading this post, I believe I am a DJ "in training".

I rarely post here anymore, but the fact that I even asked this questions shows I am not 100% confident in my abilities.

Getting good with girls happened on its own. All I did was get out, try as hard as I could and (here's the main reason) kept on trying. Again and again.

Some nights I get numbers. Some nights I get dates. There was a night only a couple of weeks ago where I talked to about 2 girls. I still get rejected, like everyone else.

Failure only made me stronger. I've failed enough to last me a life time, and that is why I succeed.

 

[Evil-Rom]

"djs" dont brag

 

[Caveman]

Sounds like you just want some confirmation from other guys. The fact is: you are doing good for yourself. You are having fun, you have game and you can make your pick.

Go out there and enjoy it. Keep believing in yourself and you'll be fine. If you are out there getting girls, who cares what you are? Are you trying to be a DJ or are you trying to have fun and be happy?

 

[Dapper Swindler]

You want the kosher meal with this ego trip?

You're doing well. What do you want to hear? It depends on your definition of a DJ to decide if you are one or not.

 

[jakethasnake]

I personally don't get the feeling that he's bragging. He sounds like he's just pinching himself because he can't quite believe what he's pulling off. I don't know if he's holding down multiple dates with multiple hot women (it's not that hot to get average-to-cuteish girls to go out with you - I could personally juggle 10 of them at a time if that were the misson) - but suffice to say he's doing just fine for himself. Bravo, and congratulations.

 

[n00bPimp]

Am I a DJ?

The answer is no, because a true DJ knows he's a DJ and doesnt ask such a foolish question